scout86
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A lot of that sounds like a familiar pattern. Good luck! I hope the new place comes through with no complications and it turns out to be a good move!
Stress cup so full... have to move house and no idea where to...
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Ughhh... life being the strange shitshow that it is sometimes, has dumped another massive additional stressor/ task on top of my already overwhelming current to-do list.
I kind of had a meltdown on the w/e and have called in sick at work for the first half of the week.
I'm not sure how to cope.
I may have to quit this job and go back on disability while all these other issues are getting sorted out.
I'm pretty much at my breaking point.
I kind of had a meltdown on the w/e and have called in sick at work for the first half of the week.
I'm not sure how to cope.
I may have to quit this job and go back on disability while all these other issues are getting sorted out.
I'm pretty much at my breaking point.
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I contacted the disability place today to ask them how I need to quit my job/ what paperwork they need (Dr's assessment) so that I don't get payments reduced for "just quitting" my job.
Now I need to work out: a) what date do I want to quit my job and b) what to tell my boss.
I'll be at work normally next week (unless things get even worse, sigh) so I'm going to try and use that as a guage - to work out how much longer I can cope before I need to hand in my notice.
I'm unsure how to prioritise money vs health right now. It's a balancing act. Because if finances are bad, that impacts health too.
Now I need to work out: a) what date do I want to quit my job and b) what to tell my boss.
I'll be at work normally next week (unless things get even worse, sigh) so I'm going to try and use that as a guage - to work out how much longer I can cope before I need to hand in my notice.
I'm unsure how to prioritise money vs health right now. It's a balancing act. Because if finances are bad, that impacts health too.
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It's been 3 weeks since my last post on this topic and it's been another 3 weeks of roller-coaster intensity. So many appointments, so many people to talk to, so many things to consider... It's been frying my brain several times per week...
I'm at a strange crossroads right now (and I don't even know for sure whether this crossroads is what I think it is or not... things keep shifting around like everything's quicksand)...
Probably by the end of this week, I'll find out if I can rent the place nearby that I've been hoping for. There have been quite a few twists and turns on that front too and it's taken much longer than initially expected. I dunno what on earth to feel about it... I've been anxious to the point of feeling vomity about it for so many weeks and that's alternated with feeling so numb from overwhelm that I can't feel anything at all... So yeah, sort of getting my hopes up, sort of trying not to, just to avoid having even more emotions swirling around at top speed.
As for the farm... that's been like a bizarre witche's cauldron of bubbling newt's eyes and other gory crap... Just so many possible scenarios being presented, so many unexpected turns of events, every second day a new hiccup or hurdle or opportunity presents itself and I've no idea what's what anymore.
My current tentative "plan" (and yah, the universe is laughing its f*cking ass off at that word...) is to sell half the farm and keep the other half.
It's taken weeks of mind-bending discussions with countless people to come up with this... "plan" and I'm not yet 100% sure that it'll work.
I'm meeting with a real-estate agent on Thursday who's been very helpful throughout this entire process and we're going to discuss the options of splitting the farm up both in terms of the land and the buildings and who I need to talk to at the local building and planning department to get it sorted out.
I've got 3 buyers who are interested in buying the farm, before it's even gone on the market. All 3 would prefer to buy the farm outright (ie. all of it) and I'm not sure if they're interested in buying half. Two of them I think may be up for it and I've already told one of them about this idea and asked them to give it some thought.
Apart from that, I've figured out some helpful ways to market (half) the farm, once everything's sorted out, so I'm pretty confident that I'll be able to find a buyer for half the farm if all the legal details work out.
So... if I am able to sell half the farm and can stay on the other half of the farm... then I won't need the other rental place... which I also really like... but the timing is kinda... weird... cos I dunno whether to sign the rental lease, if I get offered it, just in case selling half the farm doesn't turn out as I hope it will...
Currently, my best bet is if the guy who's currently renting the rental place I'm interested in, if he takes his sweet time moving to the house he's bought... Cos if it takes him, say, another 2 months, then by that time I probably will have worked out whether I can sell half the farm or not, and hence will have a pretty good idea of whether I need the rental place as a backup plan or not...
So yeah... that's where things stand currently.
Oh, the other thing that's going on is that I tried applying to my local bank for an interim loan to tide me over until half (or all) of the farm is sold and they refused it, for really frustrating reasons. I offered them the whole farm as collateral for the loan but they were totally fussy and annoying and I ended up walking out in the middle of the conversation with the bank employee and basically told her to f*ck off, while still having enough presence of mind to word it less coarsely, but she knew exactly what I meant.
So now another task on my endless to-do list is to phone around and talk to other banks, which is a task I need like a hole in the head.
I've got enough money I can put on my credit card to tide me over (just) but it's a way, way tighter budget than I'd wish and the interest on a credit card is annoyingly expensive compared to a proper loan.
But yeah, all in all, that's where things stand. I've noooo idea where things'll be at 3 weeks from now, none at all. Life's like standing on quicksand, while trying to juggle 10 hot potatos atm...
I'm at a strange crossroads right now (and I don't even know for sure whether this crossroads is what I think it is or not... things keep shifting around like everything's quicksand)...
Probably by the end of this week, I'll find out if I can rent the place nearby that I've been hoping for. There have been quite a few twists and turns on that front too and it's taken much longer than initially expected. I dunno what on earth to feel about it... I've been anxious to the point of feeling vomity about it for so many weeks and that's alternated with feeling so numb from overwhelm that I can't feel anything at all... So yeah, sort of getting my hopes up, sort of trying not to, just to avoid having even more emotions swirling around at top speed.
As for the farm... that's been like a bizarre witche's cauldron of bubbling newt's eyes and other gory crap... Just so many possible scenarios being presented, so many unexpected turns of events, every second day a new hiccup or hurdle or opportunity presents itself and I've no idea what's what anymore.
My current tentative "plan" (and yah, the universe is laughing its f*cking ass off at that word...) is to sell half the farm and keep the other half.
It's taken weeks of mind-bending discussions with countless people to come up with this... "plan" and I'm not yet 100% sure that it'll work.
I'm meeting with a real-estate agent on Thursday who's been very helpful throughout this entire process and we're going to discuss the options of splitting the farm up both in terms of the land and the buildings and who I need to talk to at the local building and planning department to get it sorted out.
I've got 3 buyers who are interested in buying the farm, before it's even gone on the market. All 3 would prefer to buy the farm outright (ie. all of it) and I'm not sure if they're interested in buying half. Two of them I think may be up for it and I've already told one of them about this idea and asked them to give it some thought.
Apart from that, I've figured out some helpful ways to market (half) the farm, once everything's sorted out, so I'm pretty confident that I'll be able to find a buyer for half the farm if all the legal details work out.
So... if I am able to sell half the farm and can stay on the other half of the farm... then I won't need the other rental place... which I also really like... but the timing is kinda... weird... cos I dunno whether to sign the rental lease, if I get offered it, just in case selling half the farm doesn't turn out as I hope it will...
Currently, my best bet is if the guy who's currently renting the rental place I'm interested in, if he takes his sweet time moving to the house he's bought... Cos if it takes him, say, another 2 months, then by that time I probably will have worked out whether I can sell half the farm or not, and hence will have a pretty good idea of whether I need the rental place as a backup plan or not...
So yeah... that's where things stand currently.
Oh, the other thing that's going on is that I tried applying to my local bank for an interim loan to tide me over until half (or all) of the farm is sold and they refused it, for really frustrating reasons. I offered them the whole farm as collateral for the loan but they were totally fussy and annoying and I ended up walking out in the middle of the conversation with the bank employee and basically told her to f*ck off, while still having enough presence of mind to word it less coarsely, but she knew exactly what I meant.
So now another task on my endless to-do list is to phone around and talk to other banks, which is a task I need like a hole in the head.
I've got enough money I can put on my credit card to tide me over (just) but it's a way, way tighter budget than I'd wish and the interest on a credit card is annoyingly expensive compared to a proper loan.
But yeah, all in all, that's where things stand. I've noooo idea where things'll be at 3 weeks from now, none at all. Life's like standing on quicksand, while trying to juggle 10 hot potatos atm...
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Oh, and I forgot to add - I'm still working at my job... I cut my hours down from 15 hours per week to 10 hours so that's kind of the sweet-spot compromise between handing in my notice (to have more time, focus on my health, get much needed rest) and keep working to have money, a sense of achievement, something to get out of the house for, a regular schedule, etc. I'm pretty happy with that compromise and quietly pleased/ proud of myself for having managed to make that work and to stay regulated enough to be functional at work.
scout86
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Except that it sounds like you WILL have a roof over your head, it's just a question of which roof.
Of course regulations vary depending on where you live. Everywhere I've ever lived (US) they don't stop people from selling part of a farm but they might have something to say about what can be done with the part you've sold. The last place I lived, for example, they only allowed 2 houses on 40 acres. If there were already 2 houses on that 40, you could sell 10 acres but the buyer couldn't build a house. It's up to the buyer to figure out if they'll be able to use the land the way they want to or not.
I hope things go smoothly from here!
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