Relationship Struggling to cope with my partners PTSD and losing hope

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Bag123

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Almost 3 years ago to the day, my partner experienced a traumatic event. Over the next 18 months, we were unaware he had ptsd until two other incidents in February 2022 and May 2022. His ptsd behaviour changed immensely - and since then there has been a world of chaos, panic attacks, rage attacks, vomitting, confusion and just bell to be honest. He had a psychotherapist from May 2022 until December 2022 - but tried to kill himself in December 2022. Then a few more months of hell until he started with a new Clinical Psychologist in May 2023.

We are now in a period of real confusion, and I’m very worried for my own mental health. He hides things. Started mixing with different people, doesn’t stick to his word, just a completely different person to the beautiful soul he once was. I feel so sad, lost, confused and probably depressed and feel like I and we are losing everything. Please can someone reply with a positive story, because I’m starting to lose hope.

We’ve been together 11 years and he is my world
 
Movingforward10 said:
Being in therapy, things got worse for me before they got better.

Do you have support for yourself?
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No I don’t have support - not official support anyway. My parents know a bit, and a friend of mine does but that’s it.

Thank you for sharing your insights about it getting worse before better, may I ask, is it yourself with PTSD?
 
Bag123 said:
No I don’t have support - not official support anyway. My parents know a bit, and a friend of mine does but that’s it.

Thank you for sharing your insights about it getting worse before better, may I ask, is it yourself with PTSD
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Reaching out here is a good idea. And whilst it is obviously challenging sharing things about your partner, I wonder if it would help to have a space for you to talk about how this all affects you?

I have never sought any diagnosis , but I am on here as a "sufferer" as opposed to a ""supporter".
 
As a supporter, the best thing I ever did was finally getting myself into therapy. Your partner is in treatment, which is wonderful and hopefully will help over time, but my own therapy both gives me support for my own mental health as we navigate all of this and also helps me relate to and support my husband.
 
Movingforward10 said:
Reaching out here is a good idea. And whilst it is obviously challenging sharing things about your partner, I wonder if it would help to have a space for you to talk about how this all affects you?

I have never sought any diagnosis , but I am on here as a "sufferer" as opposed to a ""supporter".
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Thank you, yes maybe it would. I do feel exhausted with it all and not sure what I would say, as the stress continues whether I get therapy or not.

Cheri said:
As a supporter, the best thing I ever did was finally getting myself into therapy. Your partner is in treatment, which is wonderful and hopefully will help over time, but my own therapy both gives me support for my own mental health as we navigate all of this and also helps me relate to and support my husband.
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Thank you Cheri. Would you mind me asking - did you get therapy yourself early on? Or did you reach a point where you felt it was all too much? Also - what kind of thing does the therapy help you with - as the stress continues whether you have therapy or not. Thank you.
 

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