thismomistrying
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I'm really surprised at the number of people judging if "something is traumatic" based on themselves. Trauma is subjective- not objective and it lives and occurs in parts of the brain that are *emotion based and subconcious.
So it's about *if it's impactful to YOU* and someone typing from a logical perspective can not, claim to know if something is *traumatic to a part of your personal brain*(when it's in animal brain and within your subconcious minds perspective) vs the logic brain they are clearly typing from outside of that *suspended buried place within you*.
Trauma is subconcious and largely unrecognizable to the point that it is now understood that by the time one person, notices *one largely traumatic event*, they have likely had many other events that do not register that way on the forefront but *do* to the subconcious anyway(still trauma)/it is recognized most people do not realize they have trauma(but do) due to the disconnect between what registers to us logically vs subconsciously.
Because grief doesn't always have trauma but trauma always has grief, comments like the ones here in this thread that ignore the subconcious, subjective nature and came to judge "If it's traumatic enough" ,"what science says about the recovery rate", being used to analyze *you*, in this way can complicate the grief component due to non trauma aware support that is essentially asking you to deny your own experience (disassociate emotionally from what you claim as your own experience), minimalize your own experience and deny your own truth(this is pseudo healing) and can complicate the feeling part of things(the healthy feeling parts that *need to be felt*, with *your wise mind* as they call it in psychology.
If one has long term experience with CPTSD, trying to down play how this can impact someone long term, wouldn't cross their minds. There is a difference between trauma that is having large long term psychiatric effects on someone and how that looks for people day to day, long term(particularly if they are in an unsupportive medical system then find support that is more harmful then good even if they mean well). All that compounds and forms other complications to that person's healing and trauma.
I would say, as much as people aime to be supportive, it may not be handled well here thus far.
There is a need for a therapist who specializes in trauma(and has at least a masters) at times for someone to truly understand or CPTSD themselves (even then their own adaptations may make it hard to connect to your personal experience) because of their own mind/how they are aiming to keep themselves comfortable(by say staying in logic mind to the point of complete disconnect emotionally).
So this isn't meant to be mean to anyone here but reading the works of say trauma experts Pete Walker, Rossenberg, Bradshaw, wouldn't have folks regarding your trauma that way- or you that way.
I am raising children with cptsd,and have it myself- looking at statistics, or talking about "when some folks will be", bears no understanding of what it is to live this when your nervous system has recieved the injury that is CPTSD. It paints a picture vastly different then the reality many trauma experts see when they work in the homes of folks who live with this as a life long condition.
Am I trying to scare the opening poster?No. But I am having to speak to what isn't being said and how many are not trauma aware here, in a way that is hurtful to healing and understanding.
Personally upon discussing with a professional, EMDR is considered more intense, and there are therapies that are very intense, and have to be biult up to.
Some people take a year and a half to prepare mentally for it because that can do more harm then good, depending on your severity if not prepped for.
I also know some people are never a conditate because even "touching on" the trauma can send the mind into a spiral if the approach is just not right/symptoms can worsten(just as they can with traditional talk therapy) it's from being overly triggered.
I would consider, less severe approaches first, given how hard this is on you like trauma focused CBT, that can be modified to suite you, or for example, alternative trauma treatment that addresses using the minds neuroplasticity to heal.
Reading on CPTSD, with the authors I listed above and alternative medicine(herbal medicine, no not the things people think of usually when things say that these days. I mean nature as medicine, with a natural medicine specializing person can help, things like QuiGong(pronounced Chigong), yoga for repressed emotions(with trauma trained professional), meditation, can all be helpful in my experience.
Wishing you all the best in your healing journey- your trauma is valid, it's valid even as it is can be largely misunderstood its still valid- it's still trauma, especially if the medical professional that knows you better wants to help you with it and sees it as such.
So it's about *if it's impactful to YOU* and someone typing from a logical perspective can not, claim to know if something is *traumatic to a part of your personal brain*(when it's in animal brain and within your subconcious minds perspective) vs the logic brain they are clearly typing from outside of that *suspended buried place within you*.
Trauma is subconcious and largely unrecognizable to the point that it is now understood that by the time one person, notices *one largely traumatic event*, they have likely had many other events that do not register that way on the forefront but *do* to the subconcious anyway(still trauma)/it is recognized most people do not realize they have trauma(but do) due to the disconnect between what registers to us logically vs subconsciously.
Because grief doesn't always have trauma but trauma always has grief, comments like the ones here in this thread that ignore the subconcious, subjective nature and came to judge "If it's traumatic enough" ,"what science says about the recovery rate", being used to analyze *you*, in this way can complicate the grief component due to non trauma aware support that is essentially asking you to deny your own experience (disassociate emotionally from what you claim as your own experience), minimalize your own experience and deny your own truth(this is pseudo healing) and can complicate the feeling part of things(the healthy feeling parts that *need to be felt*, with *your wise mind* as they call it in psychology.
If one has long term experience with CPTSD, trying to down play how this can impact someone long term, wouldn't cross their minds. There is a difference between trauma that is having large long term psychiatric effects on someone and how that looks for people day to day, long term(particularly if they are in an unsupportive medical system then find support that is more harmful then good even if they mean well). All that compounds and forms other complications to that person's healing and trauma.
I would say, as much as people aime to be supportive, it may not be handled well here thus far.
There is a need for a therapist who specializes in trauma(and has at least a masters) at times for someone to truly understand or CPTSD themselves (even then their own adaptations may make it hard to connect to your personal experience) because of their own mind/how they are aiming to keep themselves comfortable(by say staying in logic mind to the point of complete disconnect emotionally).
So this isn't meant to be mean to anyone here but reading the works of say trauma experts Pete Walker, Rossenberg, Bradshaw, wouldn't have folks regarding your trauma that way- or you that way.
I am raising children with cptsd,and have it myself- looking at statistics, or talking about "when some folks will be", bears no understanding of what it is to live this when your nervous system has recieved the injury that is CPTSD. It paints a picture vastly different then the reality many trauma experts see when they work in the homes of folks who live with this as a life long condition.
Am I trying to scare the opening poster?No. But I am having to speak to what isn't being said and how many are not trauma aware here, in a way that is hurtful to healing and understanding.
Personally upon discussing with a professional, EMDR is considered more intense, and there are therapies that are very intense, and have to be biult up to.
Some people take a year and a half to prepare mentally for it because that can do more harm then good, depending on your severity if not prepped for.
I also know some people are never a conditate because even "touching on" the trauma can send the mind into a spiral if the approach is just not right/symptoms can worsten(just as they can with traditional talk therapy) it's from being overly triggered.
I would consider, less severe approaches first, given how hard this is on you like trauma focused CBT, that can be modified to suite you, or for example, alternative trauma treatment that addresses using the minds neuroplasticity to heal.
Reading on CPTSD, with the authors I listed above and alternative medicine(herbal medicine, no not the things people think of usually when things say that these days. I mean nature as medicine, with a natural medicine specializing person can help, things like QuiGong(pronounced Chigong), yoga for repressed emotions(with trauma trained professional), meditation, can all be helpful in my experience.
Wishing you all the best in your healing journey- your trauma is valid, it's valid even as it is can be largely misunderstood its still valid- it's still trauma, especially if the medical professional that knows you better wants to help you with it and sees it as such.
