Taking Back My Life After Abuse, Ideas?

[lithium-mom]

I asked a couple of people on ideas of how to feel better and ensure that I would stay on my own after I move significantly far away from my abuser. So I made a little list, and I wanted to see if anyone had anything to add to it. For reference, this is my dad-- and I'm choosing tactile things but ALSO intangible things are welcome too! But tactile things are so important for me, since I want to be grounded. I want to mention that I don't want anything BIG in these categories but my dad always said he would NEVER let me do ANY OF this.

-cutting my hair, styling, dying it the way i want
-piercings
-tattoos
-eating the food that i want to eat
-wearing the clothes i want to wear
-wearing the makeup that i want
-exercising how i like (dancing)

 

[ladee]

Really like your list ! As women, this is part of the way we express our selves and it represents freedom.. Reinventing your self with self expression !!! Love it...

 

[Miss_Elri]

I think it's a great list you wrote, and I think you should do everything on it, at your own pace of course :)
Maybe it can help you to find a place in the world of today, and to show others who you really are!

Good luck :hug:

 

[Teasel]

Great idea to make this list :)
Maybe you could add finding support for yourself, maybe finding out if there are support groups you can join or finding online support?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

How about just simply you are an adult and can do ANYTHING YOU WANT! Not sure that helps as when i was 18 to about 24ish i went WILD...had my crazy teens in my 20s. About the time i got clean off coke i decided to mature a bit...but just a bit lol :P :wacky:

 

[Ronin]

I mostly need to move the abusers out of my head, everything else is secondary from that point.

In which self compassion and finding where exactly does responsibility lie help a lot.
Also hearing from other people I'm not like these fellas.