The Fight Response to Stressful Situations.

[becvan]

Just tina:

How I react to my trauma and how I speak about my trauma is not wrong nor there for you to judge. My trauma itself is not there for you to compare to your own. They are not comparable. Every persons trauma is unique, as is their stress response to it.

Saying that my fight response to have a gun shoved in my face, is a serious handicap is a judgment. If it was a serious handicap then why am I still alive? Implying that I have control to avoid trauma, without having any clue of the circumstance behind it, is insensitive, judgmental and rude. I can only hope you do not experience this, as you have done to me.

We do not allow members to attack and judge each other about their traumas. If we did we wouldn't have a forum. No one would talk about anything.

I really don't know what your problem with me is, however, there is no justification for this treatment.

bec

 

[becvan]

Do you think maybe the fight response was a sort of "giving up" like you feel in freeze? You have a gun there and you are angry? Scared is a no brainer but the rage that kicked in someone was capable of taking your life... They were not going to take it from a scared person? It is over so **** it?

Hmm.. well with the incident where I yanked the gun right to my forehead.. it was more of shock thing. It was my only chance and I knew it. I can't get into details too much on it.. but the person was well known to me. I tried to shock sense into them and yes I was angry, shocked, afraid.

As for getting beat, I think it's very much a **** it scenario. They are going to beat me no matter what. There's nothing I can do to get away or stop them. So you fight back. There's nothing else you can do. Your so hopeless that you get very angry. It gets me through the pain.

I also feel very much that it's a die with dignity kind of moment. That this is it and I'm not going down without a fight.

bec

 

[grace5555]

I seem to only respond with freeze - sometimes i long to be able react with fight instead but that never worked and was punished severely the few times i tried. However, as much as i wish i would fight...i think i would hate that just as much as the freezing. There seems no "good" way to respond to trauma. In retrospect, I think fighting would be just as painful emotionally as freezing. None of it is to wished on anyone else - none of it is better then any other aspect...this is just one chaotic hell of PTSD whether you fought or froze.

Bec - it sounds like your fighting in various situations is quite painful and confusing to you as my freezing is to me. I am not comparing our traumas or reactions, but empathizing with the destruction it wreaks in our souls and emotions.

Sorry if this makes no sense at all - i am in a pretty bad place myself right now and prefer to be pretty silent for oh, so many reasons, but for some strange reason i felt compelled to throw my 2 cents in. Sorry it is so disjointed...

 

[becvan]

You made perfect sense Grace. Thank you so much. Yes it does wreak havoc on us, no matter the response.

bec

 

[Deleted member 93]

Bec - it sounds like your fighting in various situations is quite painful and confusing to you as my freezing is to me. I am not comparing our traumas or reactions, but empathizing with the destruction it wreaks in our souls and emotions.

That is exactly the point grace. It is so scary and confusing when we can't quite grasp how we react. I think it is great you understand how confused and scared someone can get feeling this way and get the destruction. Glad you added to it my self. Glad to see this thread back on track.