My mother had asked me to sort out some practical care for her. I found a well respected agency, but she rejected it as too costly. I was cross and said I thought she was making a mistake. She went on at length about why won't I just be nice to her. Eventually I cracked and told her why. (because she didn't bother to notice I was abused).
I think I've made a mistake. I have been protecting the family from this for many years, and now I've gone back on that for no good reason, except to do what she always does and make someone else feel bad when confronted with a difficulty. As I'd always anticipated, the response was all about her. The most generous thing she said was "Why can't we just be friends?"
I'm not going to go and apologise for telling her, but I feel really bad, wholly selfish and utterly stupid.
I think I've made a mistake. I have been protecting the family from this for many years, and now I've gone back on that for no good reason, except to do what she always does and make someone else feel bad when confronted with a difficulty. As I'd always anticipated, the response was all about her. The most generous thing she said was "Why can't we just be friends?"
I'm not going to go and apologise for telling her, but I feel really bad, wholly selfish and utterly stupid.