RainbowSearchParty
Gold Member
Just wondering. I'm feeling really lonely these days, because I'm in a new country without my usual support system. I work, but most of that work is independent and doesn't bring me in contact with others. I'm also feeling at a loss of how to build a new community in middle-age. I'm making progress but it is slow and I know that I won't be best friends with people overnight.
I'm curious if anyone has any really concrete tips here. The country I'm in isn't very friendly, so even if I go to a coffee shop/library/etc no one will actually speak to me and it is very weird for me to try to speak to others. So I need other strategies. I recently joined a class at the gym and that's been some nice and benign social interaction and who knows, maybe something will blossom there. But I need more than just two hours of interaction with others a week. Any advice? I can't just spend all my time and money on trying out different types of classes on the off chance I might meet a friend, but that also has seemed to be the only way I DO meet friends .... help please?
I'm curious if anyone has any really concrete tips here. The country I'm in isn't very friendly, so even if I go to a coffee shop/library/etc no one will actually speak to me and it is very weird for me to try to speak to others. So I need other strategies. I recently joined a class at the gym and that's been some nice and benign social interaction and who knows, maybe something will blossom there. But I need more than just two hours of interaction with others a week. Any advice? I can't just spend all my time and money on trying out different types of classes on the off chance I might meet a friend, but that also has seemed to be the only way I DO meet friends .... help please?