Too Much Negative Stimuli..

[maryel42]

When this happens, for me, I will just dissociate it out of my awareness. Like, the Tv is there but I tune out of it completely. It takes practice.

Kind of like when my autistic dd throws certain types of tantrum fits. Keep her safe but mentally remove myself from the situation. That helps me keep my emotional response under wraps. It's not her fault when she's in that state, for hitting me or kicking me or even biting once or twice. Over the years I've gotten quote a few nasty injuries, but she hasn't so....?

Or a less graphic example is when as a parent you're snowed in for a week with two small kids and the preschool channels are playing. Once I survived eighteen straight hours of teletubbies. Yes.

I didn't get the skill overnight though. Took practice.

 

[Sorrento]

maryel142, what is dd ?
Where I work we have clients on the autism spectrum. We work with them and their families to create individual plans and strategies to help with calming and communication. We try to stick to routines and there are sensory rooms / chill out areas, weighted blankets they can choose when starting to feel stressed, frustrated, angry etc. Sorry, I think maybe dd is a family member, so please don't think I'm trying to tell you more than you already know. It's obviously very different living with someone compared to working with them.

 

[maryel42]

Dd is my dear daughter. (Ds would be dear son).

She is going to be 9 in a few weeks! -I'm pretty happy about that.

She was a preemie,, had some sensory processing issues as a baby, among other things, and it's only in the past three years that she started talking and really progressing developmentally. Pretty awesome stuff to watch.

I don't mind your advice. It does help, sometimes, to be reminded. I integrated so many of the interventions into her everyday life ... I think that structure really made a difference. The trickiest part of her early toddlerhood was learning how much structure to build in to help her feel secure without setting her up to be locked into routines. So, bedtime was about five different steps, but they didn't always happen in the same order. Or we did three things before going out, but sometimes one of those three was swapped out. End result, she did still have some really spectacular moments but I was still able to leave the house and get stuff done. And change was not an apocalyptic event.

 

[joeygn72]

Bless you for enduring the teletubbies.