Too Much Negative Stimuli..

[joeygn72]

No... Where and how did you associate noise,violent images and chaos with respect?

 

[Barconian]

If you respect yourself, then the noise, violence and chaos would go away!

 

[joeygn72]

I think all the extraneous noise, imagery and movement makes for too much going on at once. It's like riding in a vehicle with the radio blasting and people trying to carry on a conversation. It's too much join on at once. Sometimes I have to leave a public place because I'm sensitive to whats going on around me.

 

[Barconian]

Sometimes I have to leave a public place because I'm sensitive to whats going on around me.

If you switch off to the sounds.... Then you are happier

 

[joeygn72]

It's been a rough morning so I'm having trouble understanding how respecting myself (already achieved) is going to make actual situations disappear. I think that's a lot like someone saying to a person who has an issue going on "just get over it.." I must have missed that episode of Dr. Phil (mainly because I think Dr. Phil is a crackpot) so if you could point me to which therapeutic documentation supports that I'd appreciate it very much.

 

[Barconian]

You can believe in Dr Phill all you like!!!

 

[digger]

If you respect yourself, then the noise, violence and chaos would go away

?? Can you explain this a bit more? If you work in an environment where noise, violence and chaos are unavoidable factors, how does respecting yourself change that?[DOUBLEPOST=1392983046][/DOUBLEPOST]

If you switch off to the sounds...

Do you have any practical tips on how to switch off to the sounds?

 

[joeygn72]

I could jab my eardrums with pencils but then I still have that whole pesky eyesight thing going on. I don't mean to be a (insert bad word here) I just need a further explanation..

 

[Barconian]

I just need a further explanation..

Sorry Joey, I must of gone off the rails a bit last night!

I guess that at different times, noise, violence and chaos may affect one differently, depending on the initial stress level one is carrying. Some days chaos doesn't seem much more than a messy floor. Other days it appears like a war zone in ones own perception, even though nothing is different outside of myself.

What I was meaning by self respect is that as we respect ourselves more, we build up more confidence, which causes us to relax more and the surroundings become easier to manage (less sensitive). That's all I was prattling on about!

 

[joeygn72]

There's no need what so ever for an apology, I'm constantly off the rails... Lol, I appreciate the metaphor of a messy floor being a war zone. I experience that range of preceptions more times a day than I can count.

 

[Nebulustrix]

@Barconian - I agree that confidence helps us relax more, but I personally don't quite see how self-respect can equal confidence. I have a lot of respect for myself and those around me, but I still lack confidence in certain situations and/or environments. That lack of confidence doesn't have anything to do with lack of self-respect but a lack of feeling safe/capable. Certainly having self-respect will lead us to seek ways we can build feelings of safety and capability, but there will always be occasions where we feel out of our depth and vulnerable.

To overcome those feelings of vulnerability, we have to work on building strength and confidence in our ability to maintain our own safety. Reminders of our trauma can be anywhere, and those reminders bring back the fears of our hurts and pains, and it takes time and patience to be able to "turn off" our fear response when it is triggered.

So, while I see where you are coming from in your post and think I understand the point you are trying to make, I just don't see where self-respect fits into the equation at all, and it can be rather offensive for someone to be told they do not respect themselves, even if that offense wasn't intended.

 

[Sorrento]

PTSD has made me less tolerant of noise and aggression.

I can't concentrate with that type of noise either. I work in a similar environment too. when it's noisy I can only do tasks that are superficial and routine.

When the tv is on an aggressive show, or characters arguing and verbally attacking I can't stand it and switch the channel. That includes times when the tv is on in the background.

One of the clients wears ear muffs as he is very sensitive to noise. Good on him I say. Who wants to listen to all the petty upsets all the time?