Toxic People There Everywhere!

[Pucu]

No matter how hard i try and remove toxic people from my life another toxic person comes along and takes there place i feel like no matter how many people i remove from my life I AM SURROUND AROUND TOXIC PEOPLE EVERY WHERE!
I try so hard to make sure i dont surround my self around any toxic people i have had toxic friends , and ended the friendship i have had toxic roommates that i lived with , and moved out but i feel like no matter how many friends or no matter where i move or live i am surround around all these toxic people !

 

[Ufe]

If you feel like answering, what defines a person as being toxic to you?

There are a lot of bad people out there, though.

 

[Pucu]

a toxic person to me is someone that has a negative affect on you mentally or emotionally , and that creates and causes someone drama , stress , anxiety or chaos in there life

 

[Boducu]

I think you might want to redefine toxic, a smidge. Right now? Your definition of toxic includes every single human being on the planet. It's demanding a form of perfection that is simply unattainable. An impossible standard.

It also, problematically, lumps the best of all possible relationships in with the worst of them; both love & unconditional love falls very solidly within that definition. As a mother? I can tell you that my children have caused me incredible stress, anxiety, chaos, & drama in my life from the day they were born. The negative effects they've caused me over the years? Countless. They're not toxic people, now, nor were they toxic infants. Promise. :) It's simply the nature of children. They're new. They're learning.

All relationships equal stress, both good and bad. The closer the relationship? The more stress inherent. In addition, all people? Will not only have bad days, but will inadvertently hurt those around them.

There's a common thing that happens with abuse, period, but particularly child abuse; people have a habit of penduluming in a very black and white way from accepting abusive behavior as normal, to 180 degrees opposite; thinking that normal behavior is abusive. Untwisting those two? Finding the shades of grey? Can be a very long and difficult process. To oversimplify; good people do bad things, and bad people do good things.

 

[Pucu]

A toxic person can be toxic in so many different ways and those were just some examples like another example of a toxic person is a drug user a person that uses alcohol , and a person can be toxic by being abusive whether it be verbally mentally emotionally or physically there are so many different forms of toxic people ,and some toxic people are toxic in other shapes or forms and what may define toxic to me may not be toxic to another person and i think being and acting toxic is 2 different things...

 

[Uwib]

I think that a good relationship can be defined as one that helps both parties to be better people.
So a relationship where you lose so that they win? Or they lose so you win? That's bad. Really, no growth is done for either party in that dyad. Usually things go into a downwards spiral.

...Someone who keeps you trapped in that sort of downward spiral is what I'd call a toxic person...but for you. Maybe a different person would behave differently enough?
...I don't think everyone is toxic.

 

[Pucu]

Iam not saying everyone is toxic but there are alot of toxic people out there that will go out there way to keep you inserted into there misery because there unhappy they want everyone else around them to be miserable to like they say misery loves company, and yes toxic people will keep you trapped , and cause you to continue to be inserted into things that dont involve you they will go out there way to take the attention of them selves and putting the attention on someone that has nothing to do with there actions , choices and decisions i hope that makes sense ...