Trouble Opening Emails Or Voice Messages

[cupfish]

Anyone else struggle to retrieve emails or voice messages? I find it harrowing, more so with voice messages. I get scared about the bad news on the other end, which is generally absurd.

 

[joeylittle]

It's not absurd, it's just a symptom. A really frustrating one. I get this too. I find that scheduling a time for it can help - like, I'm going to clear my voicemails tomorrow at 5pm, or something like. I also find that putting them on speakerphone helps, for some reason. I can keep some distance or something.

My email stress lowered when I started using the preview pane - so I can already see the first few lines of the email. Also, my email is configured to put anything from family that I'll likely not want to see right away into a separate folder.

I hope some of this helps.

 

[Ocean5]

Yes issue with voicemail. Depending who it is from I will often make sure I am sitting down with a cup of water near me. But I also learned about my brother, then mom dying, by cell phone. Sometimes I let it go to voicemail just so I can prepare...

 

[LadyUndomiel]

Sometimes. Usually if I KNOW for a fact ahead of time that the subject of the message is going to be unpleasant. I'll look at the first couple lines and just delete it. One of my triggers is actually notes being left for me on paper, whether they are typed or handwritten. It scares me to death because that was my abuser's favorite way to abuse me, leaving hate notes by the sink in the bathroom. Of course when that happens now it's almost always harmless.