Trust At Work

[holdenmonty]

So I'm not sure if this is really a topic or just a vent or asking for help but I'm just going to throw it out there... So I work in a secure environment where they do an investigation to basically every little detail of your life including your medical history before you can work where I work but anyway. I told my supervisor about my T appointments and that my T "prescribed" me wellness walks twice a day where I get away from my desk and clear my mind. I could tell that they didn't trust me anymore by how my supervisor acts but then my wife stopped working for a month to go and check on her mom that isn't doing that great in her health so we got behind on a couple bills and was working on getting caught up. They called my office a couple times and my supervisor asked about what was going on. I explained everything didn't even try to hide anything because I suck at hiding stuff when it's bothering me so much that I'm about to burst. Then I basically get into trouble for having gotten into the financial situation and now it's like they don't trust me at all when I have told them everything and if anything they should trust me even more after being so open to them about everything.

It's even to the point that when I told them that I was leaving for an appointment they tell me to make sure that I'm not gone to long and that I still have work to do which really is basically just answering phones and being available if anybody needs anything recently.

So I guess this is a question. Does anybody have something similar going on with their work knowing about your PTSD and not trusting you and how did/do you address it without being rude to your employer

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

Hi , unfortunately mines the opposite . I'm in management but my directors are excellant and support me hundred percent . When I'm triggering really bad and go off sick if I've triggered through night I have a document in place signed by me and my directors to say it doesn't get logged as sick , if I trigger at work my director usually knows because I may be in a meeting with her or il call her through, in allowed time to walk around the building, take time out and I even get allocated a colleague to stay with me until I feel better. I think it's diabolical the way your employers are treating you, however in England we have rights , employers have to put reasonable adjustments in place for adults with disabilities or mental health problems in which cptsd falls under. I'm not sure what to advise but to have a look at your company's policy's and procedures, maybe speak to HR? Or seek advice from an independent employers advocate . You have to be supported at work there's no doubt about it , please don't allow them to dictate to you. Good luck x

 

[MichiganMeanderer]

I believe PTSD is covered under The Americans with Disabilities Act or ADA. If you have an HR department or supervisor you have good relationship with I would talk to them about small adjustments to your workday.

 

[holdenmonty]

Thanks guys the tough thing that I forgot to mention is that I'm active duty military. But it might help if I talk to our division chief who is truly who I work for not my supervisor

 

[holdenmonty]

So I am going to finally sit down with my supervisor and talk to her about all my feelings that I have been having and all the anger that she has been causing me, but we are going to have a third person there to help mediate the conversation and make sure that both our points get across.

 

[holdenmonty]

So things ended up working out a little differently, actually it was kind of random and not even close to being planned out like I usually like to do but I told my supervisor how I feel like I'm being judged and she said that she tends to want to get ride of problems right away instead of listening and understanding the problem and will try to work on it, and that I need to continue to work on not mind reading or jumping to conclusions because the majority of my issues with trust was all me mind reading and jumping to conclusions based on some sarcasm that she has used.