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You are welcome Philippa.
You are handling it pretty well. You have been smart with this woman - she is vicious, i.e the condom placement so you let her have the room because she would have escalated. That is a smart awareness.
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Thankfully she has had many warnings from the boss before I started working there, for similar things, so the boss believed me when I told her what happened, and why she would have had reason to want me to be in trouble with her. She knows what she is like, unfortunately, she brings in a lot of customers, so the boss wouldn't fire her. She gets away with a lot, and just gets warnings. Maybe the boss is scared of her too?:D
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Cash Cow? Extra Manipulative? Looking forward to August? Who knows? Extra Charismatic Customer Puller?
Not your problem.
You are on to her and you are not letting her problems become your problems. So Go Philippa!
Not your problem.
You are on to her and you are not letting her problems become your problems. So Go Philippa!
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What a great saying. I like it.
A good therapist would not use anything against you. I'm sorry that you feel that you need to be careful about what you say.
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She isn't a therapist. She's a woman I work with who caused me trouble a couple of weeks ago.
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Thankyou nimkekaa.
She came into my room last night near the end of the shift and wanted to speak to me about something, but I was too busy keeled over moaning from my menstrual cycle starting, that she did the wise thing and left me the hell alone. I'm still curious to know what she wanted to say? Apologize for being an A-1 Bee-atch? Try and soften me some more as you suggested Ms Spock? Who knows?
She came into my room last night near the end of the shift and wanted to speak to me about something, but I was too busy keeled over moaning from my menstrual cycle starting, that she did the wise thing and left me the hell alone. I'm still curious to know what she wanted to say? Apologize for being an A-1 Bee-atch? Try and soften me some more as you suggested Ms Spock? Who knows?
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Hi, Philippa!
I think you are getting great advice from Ms. Spock and others. You also seem to have good intuitions about people. Listen to your gut feelings, and document interactions with her. You never know how narcissistic people are going to act, or what they will do if they sense someone not 'following' what they perceive is 'good advice'. People who document usually win when there is disagreement. It sounds like she views you as a rival, and wants to get close to sabotage you. Keep your eyes and ears open, and like someone said, "Talk about Big Bird, the weather, etc."
Hang in there, and don't give up your space. Physical, emotional, or spiritual. You have learned to 'spot' "energy vampires" and have had some good input on how to handle her. I think you have a good head on your shoulders, and can avoid, and disengage from any contact with this person.
Power & blessings to ya!
AKJ
I think you are getting great advice from Ms. Spock and others. You also seem to have good intuitions about people. Listen to your gut feelings, and document interactions with her. You never know how narcissistic people are going to act, or what they will do if they sense someone not 'following' what they perceive is 'good advice'. People who document usually win when there is disagreement. It sounds like she views you as a rival, and wants to get close to sabotage you. Keep your eyes and ears open, and like someone said, "Talk about Big Bird, the weather, etc."
Hang in there, and don't give up your space. Physical, emotional, or spiritual. You have learned to 'spot' "energy vampires" and have had some good input on how to handle her. I think you have a good head on your shoulders, and can avoid, and disengage from any contact with this person.
Power & blessings to ya!
AKJ
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Detached professional boundaries and if she says something you are not ready for you can say something like "I will think on that and get back to you in a few days." Then walk off quickly.
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Thankyou both for the support. It feels good to know I can come here and be heard as well as be given sound advice and support. I felt quite on my own yesterday, as my only ally there was not working. I do not feel that the others are really my friends, just fun to hang out with sometimes and laugh about stuff with...maybe have a drink after work with, but not people who really care about me.
I'm glad that she left when I said I was not feeling well. She could have used it to her advantage, but she was respectful of that at least. I did not hang out with them all day, and spent most of the day in my room just drawing and sleeping, and distracting myself with facebook etc.
I have started documenting her comments to me. At lunch she gave up her chair so me and the receptionist could get to the take away thai food he bought for us all, but I was very aware not to get too comfortable, and could feel her eyeing me. I let her have "her" seat back without any complaint and stood to eat. I did not mind as I was physically far away from them all and could just eat without getting involved in their conversation. I ate and then cleaned my bowl and left the room.
She came in and just sat right next to me later. I wonder now if she was going to try and suggest that I find work somewhere else, as she did initially, using the angle of me not seeming to be handling the job well (they all reacted to me relaying an incident that happened first thing in the morning as though I were an amateur and needed their advice on how to deal with those scenarios...which I didn't, I handled it quite well and normally for what it was, and the context it occurred in.) If she had said something while i was in the state I was in I may not have had the strength to tell her to leave me alone, but she just left, so that was good. I'm kinda itching to know now...but I guess I will find out if it was important enough...?
I also carry my Scholl (Black Tourmaline) around with me at work and have a chunk in my room, to help with protecting from these kinds of people. I don't know if any of you are into crystal assistance, but I feel that they help me a lot, and always have a few on me at all times.
Tourmaline helps with allowing me to see when someone elses attack is about them and not me, and also helps turn that neg energy into something more positive. It has helped me through other scenarios of sociopathic managers in the workplace, so I'm grateful to have that presence with me.
I'm glad that she left when I said I was not feeling well. She could have used it to her advantage, but she was respectful of that at least. I did not hang out with them all day, and spent most of the day in my room just drawing and sleeping, and distracting myself with facebook etc.
I have started documenting her comments to me. At lunch she gave up her chair so me and the receptionist could get to the take away thai food he bought for us all, but I was very aware not to get too comfortable, and could feel her eyeing me. I let her have "her" seat back without any complaint and stood to eat. I did not mind as I was physically far away from them all and could just eat without getting involved in their conversation. I ate and then cleaned my bowl and left the room.
She came in and just sat right next to me later. I wonder now if she was going to try and suggest that I find work somewhere else, as she did initially, using the angle of me not seeming to be handling the job well (they all reacted to me relaying an incident that happened first thing in the morning as though I were an amateur and needed their advice on how to deal with those scenarios...which I didn't, I handled it quite well and normally for what it was, and the context it occurred in.) If she had said something while i was in the state I was in I may not have had the strength to tell her to leave me alone, but she just left, so that was good. I'm kinda itching to know now...but I guess I will find out if it was important enough...?
I also carry my Scholl (Black Tourmaline) around with me at work and have a chunk in my room, to help with protecting from these kinds of people. I don't know if any of you are into crystal assistance, but I feel that they help me a lot, and always have a few on me at all times.
Tourmaline helps with allowing me to see when someone elses attack is about them and not me, and also helps turn that neg energy into something more positive. It has helped me through other scenarios of sociopathic managers in the workplace, so I'm grateful to have that presence with me.
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