Relationship Trying to understand isolation

[Losinghope2018]

I've been isolated for 10 days from my girlfriend of almost a year and am trying to understand this isolation stuff as it's the first time it's happened.

We are still technically together....She hasn't changed our FB status for what that is worth...But still am isolated and she hasn't responded to a couple nice texts I have sent her which she has never done.

What are her thoughts right now? Is there any coming back from this when she's ready to talk about everything? Is she trying to figure out ways to make it work?

I don't know whether to move on or keep waiting for her and the pain gets more excruciating every day I don't hear from her.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Some people with PTSD use isolation as a coping method when they're stressed and cannot cope. Rather than panicking about it, its best to just relax and give her some space to settle down.

Did she break up with you?

 

[Losinghope2018]

The last time we talked she said break-up, but we agreed we would chat in person before any decision is to be made.

She has done this a couple times where she will "break-up" with me on the spot for no real reason, but then be fine a hour later. This time is obviously a lot more drastic of a situation.

 

[Sweetpea76]

I know it's hard, but I'd consider it a break up. She said "break up" and now won't answer your texts. Anyone can leave you at any time for any reason, and you cannot control it. You have to make yourself vulnerable to that kind of hurt to be in a relationship.

Im sorry you're hurting.

 

[Buttercup]

Unfortunately no one can tell you what she is thinking but you might get some insight in the supporter discussion area in the thread called what are they thinking. Lots of insightful stuff there. Also a lot of insightful posts in the thread about cognitive distortion I think in this forum or also in the discussion forum.

I'm sorry you are hurting too. Break ups are tough!