NewBeginnings
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Here goes - I am embarrassed and have too many crazy thoughts as to why but maybe someone has a suggestion that may help.
I have no trouble going to sleep. I then wake when my DH comes to bed which could be 2am, 4am or around 5am. (Yes - my husband has sleep issues too -usually falls asleep on the couch in front of TV wakes up and does stuff and then comes to bed) I then can't go back to sleep for a couple of hours if at all unless...we have sex.
I have history of abuse issues (including sexual abuse as a child and then rapes in early adulthood.) If we have sex - that is what it is - rougher than I think it should be but I don't know what "should be" is. After it is over I then have no issue going to sleep. If we don't then I am just waiting. Also on nights that my DH comes to bed after 4 I usually wake anyway at some point before and then have no trouble getting back to sleep. I can't say sex is enjoyable but in a weird way I can't relax until it is over- can anyone relate?
I have no trouble going to sleep. I then wake when my DH comes to bed which could be 2am, 4am or around 5am. (Yes - my husband has sleep issues too -usually falls asleep on the couch in front of TV wakes up and does stuff and then comes to bed) I then can't go back to sleep for a couple of hours if at all unless...we have sex.
I have history of abuse issues (including sexual abuse as a child and then rapes in early adulthood.) If we have sex - that is what it is - rougher than I think it should be but I don't know what "should be" is. After it is over I then have no issue going to sleep. If we don't then I am just waiting. Also on nights that my DH comes to bed after 4 I usually wake anyway at some point before and then have no trouble getting back to sleep. I can't say sex is enjoyable but in a weird way I can't relax until it is over- can anyone relate?
