I think that's how I will be. I remember Devil was a total idiot until he turned 18months. I also want a one year old but raised by me and more balanced husband. Thanks for sharing. I guess it's part of giving in and accepting when we have to ask our supporter to do stuff we don't want to do at that time. Hopefully while still at the nerve level we can say it 'sensibly". Love that word "sensible" just like "reasonable". Apparently, the addition of the words "or I will stab you in the f##ing eye" does not fit into that category and I am attempting to cut down on that.We did factor those things, yes. I have days where I get pissed off with her already... I was never unrealis...