I read on here in a different thread, the difference between a triggor and a stressor. I saw the man I love in the triggger section induced by the stressor section, but I also found me which was quite a surprise. I came here looking for ways to help him with his PTSD and how to deal with it, becasue I am causing us to go in a direction I don't want. I love him compoletely and totally and I want to have a life with him once we are in the position to move in that direction. In the meantime I have an enormous amount of stress in my life. It's rare lately ewhen I don't have a headache, and while I dont' let the headaches keep me form work or the thigns I want to do, they do .nfluence my attitude to a certain degree. and I don't sleep well at all. I have about a zillion challenges daily, and not to be a whiner, I'm just looking for answers........