What Have You Learned That Made You Feel Empowered

[Mach123]

I forgive me I forgive the others around me. I have to make an effort. I can never just go on auto because I'll be all like getting on me about all the bad stuff about me and walk in a store or somewhere and I say something I think is innocent. It doesn't come out right though. That's just projecting it onto everything around me.

 

[grit]

I feel @albatross and @ladee touched what I was going to say but I will add this much. Learning is the luxury of children who are in a safe space. I learned how to survive not to how to live and of course I was still growing in body and going through the motions of development because the clock does not stop. Now I am learning all the things I should have learned in the first 4yrs of my life...mostly before I master language.

What truly inspire me is this quote of yours:

And I decided I was going to work my ass off to unlearn distorted thoughts and take my thinking back.

Taking my thinking back has been god sent because no matter what I felt, I always knew acting on it was a futile prospect; hence, I remain functional just to separate those two. Imagine if I did not spend all my young and adult life to wonder why do I feel this way and how do I not act on it? That is the price I pay for being born unsafe environment...but thank goodness I took my thinking back early in my adulthood and now I am bringing the thinking and the emotional into one...so I do not waste so much time dissecting and planning.

 

[Teasel]

That even when Mr rages at me for 4 hours, using every trick in his book, I don't buy any of it.

 

[Rani G2]

Leaving an argument is not weakness. A part of me thinks that 24/7 toughness is needed, the other one is full of fear...

Difficult to handle.
So if aggressive People come my way I also "can" leave/run away/ Not interested in argument because Its a choice and I dont want to spend my Energy on the wrong place.

 

[ladee]

@PURUSHA, I would 'like' your post 100 times if I could! It's not a weakness. It takes tremendous strength to know when to walk away. Lots of :hug: to you!!

 

[ladee]

That my feelings matter. Many times the feelings are my guide toward change that will help me in the long run.

 

[Rani G2]

Thanks @ladee ?

 

[Teasel]

I can totally let go a lot of the shit I've been holding onto :D :D :D ???✖✖✖

 

[ladee]

@berlinda, awesome! Freedom. :hug:

 

[ms spock]

Standing up for myself politely and firmly.

 

[Keming]

Felt empowered when the T discussed severe stress' long term damaging effects on the hypothalamus. Because when I break, I know it's not me being a habitual failure, it's the damage.

 

[ms spock]

I will not be desparate and needy and take any shit job.