What Would Make The Christmas Holidays Better For You?

[janej32]

I personally can't stand Christmas, it supposed to be joyful but it is just always such a sad time for me. So I'm just wondering what's something your family members or a friend could do or say to make your holiday a better one?

I would love for someone to just say it's
Ok if I don't want to celebrate and not judge me for it.

 

[Sandra]

I don't celebrate it. The rest of my family does though but without me. Which is my choice. As I the less time I spend with my nasty family the better. Nor have I told my family I have different beliefs then them.

If it's a nice day and not much snow I usually take a nice drive somewhere.

 

[kimberley dawn]

Just like you 2 I spend christmas by myself. Or no, with my dogs! My choice, as with you, Sandra. Got the week off from work this year, as I usually get hit hard with triggers all over the place.

Been doing it like this for more than 15 years and it's nice. Make good food, have the place looking like a x-mas home, tv on whenever I want, disconnect the phone if I don't feel like talking (better than listning to that ringin!!) and the dogs and I go for a nice walk late at light. And yeah, that's the one day I like snow.

Btw, in Norway we celebrate x-mas on the 24th for some reason..

 

[goingonhope]

If countless parents hadn't already purchased, and weren't continually buying their elementary school age sons and daughters laptops, cell phones, smartphones, the most updated DS system and every other sort of electronic device, game sets and games, .....across this city.

Then the Christmas holiday would be much better, as then my kids wouldn't feel less then for not receiving one as well.

 

[maddog]

Quite honestly, I think that the only thing that would really help to make Xmas easier for me is if it didn't happen at all. A 2-3 week voluntary coma would be nice...

Maddog

 

[Srain]

What would make it better is if I could get in my car and drive across country to see my Son and his family! I would love that! However, that can't happen due to driving through the mountains and snow storms but dang, if they were closer, I would do it in a second!

Oh yeah, with only my Big Girl as back seat driver ;).... I'm in a "get out of dodge" kind of space!

 

[freakofnurture]

Husband and I ignore all holidays as best we can. His family still celebrates but without any seasonal stuff, so it's basically a get-together like every other. It makes that C-thing very bearable. Plus we don't listen to the radio and the tv stays off.

I really enjoy it, sitting on the sofa on Dec 24th watching a movie and eating nothing special while the rest of the country has gone faaar away to holiday land. Basically making us the only people in a 500 mile radius. Lovely.

 

[janej32]

That sounds nice, freakofnurture! I wish I could be content like you, when I don't celebrate I get so sad just thinking of all the happy people celebrating all around me.

There are a few people in my life who kind of feel the same as me about the holidays ( as in they feel it's a sad time) and I'm wondering whether or not I should send them cards or anything, I really don't want to make the holidays any worse for them but I want them to know I care. Ahh It's a tough one.

 

[Tinyflame]

jane maybe just say hello.

 

[AngelaMarie]

I just want to spend time with my boys this year. I don't want the drama I have had to deal with every year from my ex. I just want to watch films, bake, play games and enjoy the vacation they get from school. We have decided not to buy presents this year. We just want to be together and be happy. Spending time with them is the only thing I want.

 

[Tinyflame]

For everyone I care about to feel genuine joy, peace and happiness.

 

[Queen Boudica]

I'd really like Christmas in the snow with my kids. You know one of those dream Christmas scenes that don't exist. A snow covered log cabin with a cosy fire and a big huge real Christmas tree that touches the ceiling filling the room with that Christmas pine scent. Snow glistening through the frosted windows. And you think you here sleigh bells during the night. And the kids wake up all excited to open their presents and then go outside to play on a tobogin (spelling?) and throw snowballs at each other, whilst I make the best most sumptious Christmas dinner with turkey and all the trimmings.

Unfortunately my dream does not quite match reality. As I am in Australia the hope of snow is somewhat impossible. And I will somehow have to figure out what to do about ex H who is already asking about what is going to happen about Christmas. And he really hates Christmas, he is not into it at all. But I bet this year he is.