Where Are All The Men?

[Claire]

Its just occured to me that there are very few blokes on this forum. Is this because more women get PTSD than men or that men just find it harder to talk about it and are less likely to post? It would be very good to have a few more male voices on here to balance things out a bit.

 

[Lisa]

So true! There were a few men posting a while back, but I don't know where they disappeared too... but I think we need more men! I doubt that it's because women get more PTSD... don't forget PTSD all started in the military, which is a male orientated occupationally... or at least I think so!

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

I think most men feel they can handle their problems on their own. My husband and son is this way and refuses to speak about their real problems. They might just vent about superficial things.

This is my humble opinion
Tammy

 

[Marlene]

I read that women do tend to get PTSD more than men do. Not sure how true it is. I also agree that men are more likely to try to 'tough it out' rather than talk it out. I did enjoy when we had a number of men helping to balance things out before. Hopefully it will happen again.

Lisa

 

[anthony]

Women are simply more adept to helping themselves, looking in to what they feel as it is a genetic trait for females. As stated, and Tammy said it well, most men think they can just handle it all on their own. The one's you see here realized they can't.

 

[madjon]

:hello: chap at the back who says things when he thinks they are relevant, or needs thoughts on something

 

[Nicolette]

Fair enough madjon and very male thinking :wink:

 

[Deleted member 93]

Women are just more open. Guys more reserved. Excellent examples Jim and Kathy. Kathy is very open and speaks a lot. Jim if you look at it in man talk he says a page worths in 2 lines. His way of speaking here is much like my hubby, but my hubby is an even more rare poster, I do not think has even 20 posts. Guys that finally talk about feelings are rare in general I think. I think we all are "just fine" and hold a front... Just when we crumble we are more public as it is more socially acceptable. Guys crumble too but they are drilled in not to "act like a girl". Guys who get past that to help them selves are doing them self a favor.

 

[Claire]

Hello Madjon, nice to have you around.

 

[anthony]

The forum needs more men to balance it out IMHO.... because as I stated elsewhere in a thread recently, too many men makes a place aggressive, too many women makes it bitchy.... my opinion though based on what I see. I have though simply come to terms with the fact that this forum will always be female heavy due to the simple fact as stated above, women are more open to look in, men aren't.

 

[Claire]

I agree Anthony. Its the same when offices become women or men heavy. They are much better with an equal balance. So where are all the 'new' men then?!

 

[batgirl]

I don't think this has been mentioned yet, but... in the Carers forum my Dad was talking about backing down because he feels outnumbered by all the females here. He was just joking, but it got me thinking. I'm belong to another forum, a computer programming forum, which is mostly made up of men. I don't post much on that forum, simply because I feel a bit uncomfortable with all the men. When I do post, some of them talk down to me, and I know it's because I'm female. I feel a bit out of place there, especially when the men get into comparing how great they are, and who's the better programmer and so on. :rolleyes: Maybe the men feel a bit like that too, too many women talking about woman kind of stuff, and it's a little intimidating, because despite being equal men and women do communicate differently and so on. I know if this was a mostly male forum I would be posting and sharing a lot less probably, or at least posting and sharing would be more of a challenge. I could be wrong, but it's just a thought.