For me it's my therapist that has proven most helpful. She's a trauma specialist and is wise, caring and challenging all at once - she pushes me when need be and holds me still when I need that. Her consistency is helping me to recognise and accept care from other people in my life and I'm so grateful to her. This place has helped me so much too, partly in helping me figure out the relationship stuff I didn't learn in childhood and partly in helping me realise how normal my "odd" reactions are for someone who has experienced trauma.