Why do so many men see me as a sex object?

[Himo]

Shrug. I’m a dog, fell outta the ugly tree hitting every branch on the way down, but men have always liked me. Thin & athletic, or fat & momish, everything in between? Only real difference is what groups are hitting on me. IDFK what it is, but it’s there. Granted, i like men, as a species, whether I’m sleeping with them, working with them, or just friends with them. Always been something of a guys’ girl, tomboy, etc. So it’s not all sexual by any means, and pretty easy to tell the difference between just kicking it with the boys, and being hit on by individuals. No CSA in my history. Just the kind of chick a lot of men like, for whatever reason. I stopped questioning it a long time ago. Ugly as sin, but men have never really cared.

 

[Abeh]

Hi @too pretty.... I'm so sorry you have experienced csa. I honestly think some men are predators... And watch a woman and use what they have learned to there advantage. Some men are just assholes..... And some mens egos are such that they think they are God's gift to every woman they see.

I guess trust your instincts.. If you get a vibe... Walk away. If a man makes advances... Call him a creep if you can... And then walk away.

Oh and not all men are wankers.. One of my best friends from years ago was a man

 

[Too Pretty]

Those that have been abused as kids I think are more likely to be re victimised as adults. I've head lots of people say...

I took a self defense class and it did not help me. I was all "thumbs" at it, like uncoordinated, you know?

 

[Too Pretty]

Shrug. I’m a dog, fell outta the ugly tree hitting every branch on the way down, but men have always liked me. Thin & a...

I was a late bloomer as a kid, tomboy too. Always hung with the boys. I still like to hang with them now, except when they hit on me! I want to be seen as valuable for other reasons than sex by them. It just seems like that does not happen very often. Instead, I get hit on and hit on, until I am so sick of it!

 

[Too Pretty]

Hi @too pretty.... I'm so sorry you have experienced csa. I honestly think some men are predators... And watch a woman an...

I wish I could walk away, but it is at work this time around that this is happening. I hope it is over, I really do. I said NO and I meant it. We shall see what happens today!

 

[Zatani]

It's just the way of it for many of us women. If you're single, attractive, and have that air of vulnerability, lots of guys think you are up for grabs. They get hopeful. They're not bad for wanting to take you to their bed, they're just men being men.

Lots of it is hardwiring, some of it is cultural.

As women, alone in the world, we are often vulnerable, this has always been a reality for women.
To think it should be otherwise is just not dealing with reality.
It's a good thing men want to have sex with women, otherwise none of us would be here!

Hating on men, or thinking they are wrong for wanting to bed, you will get you nowhere.

Not wanting to be propositioned? Do you really want that? No, you just don't want the guys that you aren't interested in, but that's life.
Having a boyfriend is the best way I've found for keeping other guys at bay. They still sniff around, but my boyfriend is very tall and a bit fierce looking so he scares other guys off, which suits me fine!

 

[Too Pretty]

It's just the way of it for many of us women. If you're single, attractive, and have that air of vulnerability, lots of...

First of all, I have stated above in some of my posts that they have repeatedly propositioned me, even after I have said NO several times. Some of them have done so when I did have a boyfriend or was married, knowing these things and seemingly not caring. Thirdly, when I am at work, on the job, needing to concentrate on said work, it is not the time nor the place for them to do this, especially repeatedly, after I have said NO several times.

There is a time and a place for everything and it is not at work that these things should be being said.

In one case the person is mentally challenged and so I can forgive it. The rest, shame on them! They are out of line I believe.

 

[Nicibi]

Perhaps you need to say WTF...WITH YOU??? HELL NO! (Laugh loudly) whilst walking away... shaking your head.
For married or attached men try .. Hey let me just check up with your wife/girlfriend...what's her number?
Worked for me....

 

[Too Pretty]

Perhaps you need to say WTF...WITH YOU??? HELL NO! (Laugh loudly) whilst walking away... shaking your head.
For marrie...

That is brilliant, thanks! LOL.

 

[Dogepa]

Oh I've got lots more but essentially use your God given wit & a load of attitude. I've written NO NOT EVEN IN YOUR DREAMS! in permanent marker on a Post it note & slapped it on their f*** shoulder or file or computer while they were saying it again... walked away laughing loudly! Just try it... Don't be the pretty pot plant the same dog's piss on every time they want to lift their leg...

 

[Ija]

Dickheads that can't back off a married mans woman deserve to be knocked the f*ck out imo.

 

[Bugo]

Talk to a superior?

When shit gets bad this is the only thing that I have found to help.

Why?

Because these JERKS don’t know how to take NO for an answer! You can scream NO at the top of your lungs and they just see it as a challenge.

What country are you in?