Words That Make You Cringe And/or Push Up Your Symptoms?

[JustBe]

"Calm Down" gets my back up!

 

[BlackbirdSinging]

For me it's words phrases and the nuances in which they're said. It's even gestures. Like when people put their hand up and say "stop talking" while in an argument. I'm instantly triggered and I lose it and become furious. I yell stomp throw things and slam doors. I can't stand it when people decide to stand too close to me. And I absolutely HATE it when people condesend to me. The words that drive me nuts are

Sensitive - it's like a four letter word to me
Weak
Martyr
Victim
Groomed

Phrases that bother me are

Get over it
You'll beat it
I got over it
I have feelings too you know
You're not the only one who
Just be positive

Some of those make me feel like victim blaming. For whatever reason it comes across to me like "if you'd only do this thing you'd be better and since you're not it's your fault you're not better yet".

 

[Candleflames]

@Movin'On That one makes me want to punch someone.

 

[Miss_Understood]

When I get accused of not caring, makes me livid. If I didn't care I would be gone.

 

[Abstract]

Thanks for this thread @Candleflames.

When I joined this site I was at the stage where just reading the r word sent me reeling. I saw others bandying it around and it made me feel pathetic and over sensitive. Here I was with probably way less trauma and even unable to cope with this. So it helps to hear that others find these things difficult too although I am sorry that they do.

Here is wishing you a 25th free of cringy and symptom spiking words!

 

[Hashi]

Oh dear, Abstract, I'm just about to talk about the r word. Maybe don't read.

I don't like phrases which divide rape into types. "Gang rape", "date rape", "stranger rape" etc. Rape is such a powerful word - and I understand why it can feel too powerful to use. I feel that qualifying it with an adjective instantly reduces the impact of the word. The phrases are too neat and handy - you can't categorise such an experience in that way, It's always rape, and the context can be described separately from that.

I really, really hate people using the words rape and torture to describe experiences that weren't those things.

I sometimes cringe at words or phrases that people pick for their usernames here. This is especially if it includes a derogatory word for someone with a mental health issue/disability.

I always flinch at swear words and have to mentally rebalance after hearing or reading one (even with the asterisks).

The worst word for me, by far, is "family". To me, that word is a synonym for all things bad.

 

[aka]

I hate being called "good" or "girl" and really freak out when both are used at the same time. But have no problem saying the same thing to my parents dog. I also have no idea why I hate that phase in the first place. Sigh so confused.

 

[Abstract]

Don't you worry Hashi. I have to desensitise and am much better than I was when I first came to the forum.

 

[Candleflames]

I'm glad that this thread has been helpful to more than just me. When I joined I couldn't even say "r-word". I called it "that thing that happened" or simply left the room if the subject came up. When you know as many political activists as I do the subject comes up quite a bit. I have left more than a few rooms.

I can remember my sister talking about my obligations to "the family." It sounded so much like someone talking about a cult that my whole body revolted against me and that was before I was diagnosed. The phrase sounds so ominous.

 

[shimmerz]

'just think about something else'
'what are YOU talking about' - even if I feel I am being articulate
'you're too sensitive'
'broad' - being called one
'quiet' - although using bad words and more direct words STFUp
'don't you think it would be better if you just got on with your life'?