Worry I Am A Narcissist.

[CrazyHorse]

99.9% of narcissists won't/ can't see that they are narcissistic

And even if they did, they would proberly view their NPD as something like a special and evoluitonary advantage that grants them superiority over the human race! Bah!

 

[Jane.l]

@eav I found your post very interesting I attract narcissists too , infact I am in the process of leaving one.
He has had me believe for years that I was the problem because I am 'damaged' and its only since I have been in therapy that I can see its him.

@ Long story short really don't think you have a problem with this -for all the reasons the others have said - caring and questioning your behaviour are far from narcissistic

@ crazy horse that did make me smile but just coz it's so damn true !!!

 

[LongStoryShort]

Nevertheless I hurt people and said things i can't take back now, it sucks :-/
I have confused myself I think.

 

[LilBit]

I agree with the others, the fact that you doubt and question yourself pretty much rules you out as a narcissist. The narcissists in my life are incapable of even acknowledging that I have a point of view, let alone take it into consideration!

 

[Abstract]

We all have some narcissistic tendencies in us and a little is healthy. There is also such a thing as narcissistic injury. An example is feeling devastated when someone criticises how we look. Someone without narcissistic wounds wouldn't really care.

Maybe what would be more helpful for you at present is looking at behaviours and how you can change them to be more healthy. I am forever quoting Pete Walkers 4 f's article but I do think it is good. I think it can help us check in on how we are reacting and see what would be healthier.

https://www.myptsd.com/threads/complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-cptsd.13764/

 

[Philippa]

Yeah, we all have a little bit of narcissism in us, but if you are worried about it, and actually thinking you have it, then you probably don't. A Narcissist would never think he/she might be the one with the problem. They live their lives placing the focus on others, to take the focus off their own behavior. they never seek help but instead will try and make you seem like the bad one or the one with problems. The fact that you are even worried about it means you have a conscience and don't want to hurt people. We all do though. Hurting others is just a fact of life in this world. Being hurt and hurting is something humans do. Coming to accept this is a big step towards healing ourselves, and also becoming more aware of other peoples feelings. Narcissist literally don't care about anyone elses feelings, because no one really exists apart from them. We are but mere satellites orbiting their Sun.

 

[LongStoryShort]

Maybe what would be more helpful for you at present is looking at behaviours and how you can change them to be more healthy. I am forever quoting Pete Walkers 4 f's article but I do think it is good. I think it can help us check in on how we are reacting and see what would be healthier.

https://www.myptsd.com/threads/complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-cptsd.13764/

Good article this as well, it is not always so easy to find these articles yourself, I have now read or skimmed through all the articles under articles but not all articles are under articles.

Freeze type sounds familiar to me I have used that type of response since childhood and I don't see me being able to correct this so easily.