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I Am Going To Become Homeless, Needs Tips On How To Survive Living In A Car With Four Other People.

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We are still living at home and I do not know how long the eviction process is where we live. We were making payments on the house and my daughters ex husband committed forgery on the bank papers and we were no longer able to make the payments anymore. The bank would not help her.

Presently I am looking for a job so I can get us a place to lmove into and I understand this may take a very long time.

I need tips on how to survive being homeless and living in our cars and motels and shelters.

I will go to Starbucks to use their wi fi so I can continue to watch the daily job alerts I am going from the online applications I have done.

I need practical suggestions on the little tricks that work. Thank you.
 
How awful. I'm so sorry to hear you're dealing with this.

The only thing I can really tell you is that cars don't provide much insulation. They can keep out the wind and rain but not the heat or the cold without burning fuel. So you'll need more clothes and good sleeping bags.
 
Hi Gizmo. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Another crisis is NOT what you need!
I don't know where you live, or what resources are available to you there. I do know we have helped some people over the years including taking in a friend for a while. Here are a few suggestions...
  1. Check with local church pastors/ministers who are usually connected to services in the area (especially if you have a Unitarian-Universalist Church nearby or a Congregational church. Or certainly your own church if you are a member somewhere.
  2. Also check out Catholic Charities for your state which has a lot of great programs.
  3. Family Promise helps homeless families. I don't remember if you have children in the house. http://www.familypromise.org/
  4. Check with the administrators at the closest homeless shelter. Sometimes they have contacts for helping people with transitional housing needs.
  5. Check with your local housing authority to find out about low-income housing.
  6. Check with friends...sometimes, especially during summer months, people are going away on vacation and may be happy enough to have you stay at their home to house and/or pet sit.
  7. Talk with your physician and your therapist about your situation. They ought to have connections to support that might help.
  8. I know someone who had some resources at his disposal who stayed at a campground for the spring and summer--access to showers, laundry, etc. He bought a tent and sleeping bag.
I will keep you in my thoughts as you deal with this difficult time.
 
I was homeless in Florida for 3 years. Even there sometimes the puddles froze in the very early mornings, like 4AM.

I begged in the streets, dodging the cops (begging is illegal in most places). I did end up in jail for one night for it, because I was given a ticket for $82 by a rookie sheriff. However, many of the cops would just tell me to move on, after looking at my ID and finding out that I was not wanted anywhere by the police.

I would get up at 4AM, go to the corners of two highways, one was up above and the other went under its overpass. One was route US 19 and the other was a local highway, route 60 (which was called Gulf to Bay). I stood at the traffic light by the underpass, where cars came off the highway. I did not wear sunglassed, but I did wear a hat, a white one. I would look at each driver as I carried a sign that said Homeless + Disabled. The + I would draw as a cross, the cross of Jesus. This was part of my way of surviving. The other thing I did was to say "God bless you." to everyone who gave me anything, even a penny, as some spring breakers did one time. I said it because I meant it!

People would stop and pray with me. They would bring me food. They gave me other things too. When I got enough money for a cheap motel room, I would end off for the day and go pay for one. I made sure to have the money in by check-out time, usually before.

I stayed on the shady side of the street, using the overpass to shade me from the hot Florida sun.

Restaurants, if you are nice about it, will give you a water to go. I also made sure I was clean and to the best of my ability didn't smell bad. I would take a shower and wash my cloths in the sink of the motel room I stayed in. I did not always go to the same motel. Sometimes it was necessary to change, like when the motel owner realized I was a beggar. One of them said I was bad for business. So I made it my business not to stay out and about at the motel.

I had a boyfriend who stayed with me. He claimed to pay off the police to leave me alone. I am not sure about this, because he also claimed to have paid off his contact in the police Dept to get rid of that ticket I got, but it didn't really happen. I had a bench warrant on me so that is how I was taken in by a very kind old sheriff's deputy who apologized for having to take me in. I would not recommend paying off anyone in the police Dpt. You could end up ion prison for bribery if you pay the wrong one. I never paid any police off icer off. I just spoke to them kindly and respectfully. Usually they let me go, as sending me to jail would give me a m"home" for the night anyway. And they really did not want to do that, it defeated their purposes, which were to get me off the streets.

I also treated the Judge with the utmost of respect when I had to go before him, saying "Yes your honor," and "no your honor.". I said "Thank you, your honor," when he gave me time served.

So I did spend one night in jail, but the judge did say that I should find a new way of life, which I did eventually do.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask! (Please tag me or quote me if you do so, though).
 
@gizmo just sending love and support. I was a kid and teen the last times I was homeless. My mom would go into a shelter and take us with her when the abuse at home got too bad. Other times we would stay the night at cheap motels. As a teen my mom started kicking me out after things ended with my evil stepfather. She would drop me off at school on Friday morning and tell me not to come home that weekend. It was regular. I would go to the library until closing time then to the children's playground at the park (there was a small house like structure), got myself into scary situations, stayed with friends sometimes, and just tried to survive. I bought my own food at grocery stores and 7-11with babysitting money. When I was 15 my friends and I made a "campground" up in the woods, and one night when I had nowhere else to go I went there and slept under leaves. That was one of the scariest nights though. I would shower at friends houses or take sponge baths in bathrooms (even the library). I kept my hair in a long braid most of the time as it was easy to wash that way without looking like a drowned rat. I'm sorry I have no advice. :( I hope this turns around for you very soon! Glad others had so many helpful suggestions. Keeping you in my thoughts.
 
The eviction process can take a long time. Depending on where you are in the process, it can take as much as a year in some places. I've heard of people who were able to stay longer than that, but that could be urban legend. I'm hoping you've consulted a lawyer.

And I hope you find a better solution before it gets to that point.

It probably matters how big a town you're dealing with.

Lutheran Social Services is another group who may be able to offer help. The Salvation Army too, maybe.

Most libraries also have free wi-fi, as do a lot of motels. If you can manage staying in a motel, finding one with a free continental breakfast gives you one meal a day. If you actually end up living in the car, finding a place to park where you blend in is kind of a good idea. And not parking in the same place more than a few nights in a row is also a good idea. (At least in my experience.) Walmart parking lots are good, most of the time. Truck stops. (You might even be able to get a shower at a truck stop.)

You might want to get a PO box now, so you have some place to get mail. Around here, you can't get one unless you have a physical address. Once you've got one, you're ok. I found that one of the biggest challenges was you can't apply for ANYTHING without an address. If you have friends who will let you get mail at their house, that works too. (Although I would hope friends who would let you do that would also let you crash on the couch.)

I hope things don't get that bad!
 
Thank you so much for the link Recovery. It was very educational and I needed to see that so thank you so much for finding that for me. We have four cars so I am better educated now. Love you too.

Thank you Hope for all of the helpful suggestions especially since I have two granddaughters ten and fifteen. We plan on keeping them in their schools. So we will get a po box and a forwarding address to that but not tell the school. It will last the rest of this school year. I so appreciate all that you shared.

Thank you Wilykat for the books. I will order them from Amazon today. I very much appreciate this one.

Thank you WildMermaid for sharing your experiences with me. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I am already ahead of you and have been thinking about shelters that will take us. I have savings to start us off and I am desperately looking for a job so that we can rent a place. Where I live savings does not count as income. I will start getting Social Security Survivers Benefits on the last Wednesday of this month so it will cover most of my bills.

We will be staying in motels and sleeping in our cars as well. I belong to Triple AAA insurance so I am going to get a touring book of California that has tons of motels and resturants. I will also be using the book to look for jobs as well.

I hope that you are healing and recovering from your ordeal.
 
Scout bless you. I do have a friend who would allow me to use her address to get a po box. I had not thought of that and I so appreciate the iheads up. I do not know where we are in the eviction process. All I know is that the house has been sold and my daughter cannot get any information on what is going on or where we are.

I thought that we would be given a notice this month. So If we are lucky, If we can stay here a few months longer, I can find us a job and a place to rent. Thank you so much.
 
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