Supporter My Boyfriend Suffers From Ptsd

[intothelight]

@knj2015 Welcome to the forum! :)

Here is the link to a video series you may find really helpful.

http://www.resolveofacaregiver.org/self-help/


It is hard to explain isolation, but it is just being so tapped out that any type of interaction requires such super human effort that it just can't be done right then. At least that is what it is for me.....down time to recharge. I hope you find the site helpful.

 

[Knj]

@knj2015 Welcome to the forum! :)

Here is the link to a video series you may f...

Thank you. I'll look at later today. The no contact is the hardest part.

 

[Brooke1025]

Hello. I'm new and would like some advice. My boyfriend of a year and a half has PTSD. He often times...

I'm new here too and I understand feeling sort of lost and confused as to him wanting space when you have positive intentions. But by giving him space he'll be able to bring down his anxiety levels and will appreciate you aiding him in his recovery even when it means not physically being there.

 

[knj2015]

I'm new here too and I understand feeling sort of lost and confused as to him wanting space when you...

I haven't done very well with the no texting part of it. He's texted some back. He said he had a bad day yesterday. I've been really wanting to tell him what I've learned here and sent an email. He hasn't responded. It's just so hard and I miss him terribly.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of people who feel similar and understand. There is a lot of advice and support to be found here :) I hope that this amazing community helps you as much as it helped me, reading all the similar stories, and learning a lot along the way. Hugs if you accept :hug:

 

[knj2015]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of...

I accept :) So far, just the short amount of time I've been on here, it has helped so much with the anxiety of him barely there. I really don't know what's going on but he keeps saying 'life's a mess'. In the past I've thought that he made mountains out of mole hills. He's been nice with responding to me. I'm grateful for that.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Yea, having other circles and options when a SO is withdrawing helps :) I had some crazy periods when I withdraw, though I'm normally quite similar to you, and I like being with people. But sometimes I will isolate :/

 

[knj2015]

Yea, having other circles and options when a SO is withdrawing helps :) I had some crazy periods when I...

I'm having a really hard time tonight. It's only been 5 days since I've seen him. He said he'd talk a bit today but I haven't heard from him. How he has been lately, I won't. I've gotten that he's isolating, but why can't he care what it does to me? It's hard not to believe he doesn't care.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Sometimes people are amazingly blind to others

 

[Casey_03]

I've gotten that he's isolating, but why can't he care what it does to me? It's hard not to believe he doesn't care.

Someone on here once had a great analogy for this in a different but similar thread. I believe it was @FridayJones but forgive me if I'm wrong. Anyway, this is her analogy and it might be helpful if you try to think of it this way. If he was violently ill and unable to even tear himself away from the toilet because he's so sick, would you expect him to be thinking about you? Because that's really what's happening -- to you, isolating may seem like a choice, but it's not. There are things going on in his head that simply make him unable to see or think about anything else -- just like if he were violently ill and in a really bad way. When people are ill in any way, their world closes in and they can only focus on getting better or stopping the pain. PTSD is really no different.

 

[knj2015]

Thanks-you @Casey_03 . That really does help. PTSD just lasts longer :-) I feel better today.

 

[knj2015]

Ugh...it's up and down with the emotions. Sometimes I think this isolation is just plain selfish! No offense to you sufferers. I just don't have any say and my wants and needs aren't met. That's selfish of me. You'd think there could be some sort of compromise.