She was the very last person I thought I could count on. Not depend on, rely on but more confied in both personally and through work but this morning that trust was broken. Sad. We don't need anyone. Clearly we've made it this far on our own and all efforts to find and maintain relationships have proven to be temporary. It's the arguments today between them that have taken over the mind. There's even an indication of a new one but, she does not want to be acknowledged at all. I'm finding it near impossible to appear "normal" to the average person because things will come out of my mouth as well as I've been told my facial expressions and body movements indicate something is going on. Makes us more paranoid. We just want to be left alone so we can talk out loud and do whatever we want body wise without looking weird and "crazy". This world is scary and large for people like us.
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Have you tried leaving each other notes?
Eventually establish that as communication with people in your life, if the one face to face is too difficult, electronic, hand written, something the like, and then expanding on what you already feel secure with and saying just the very minimum verbally?
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I don't understand what you mean by "leaving each other notes". Who? We have a journal that we have to write things down and the T would be privileged at times to read some of it before we were discovered. Once we were, she told us she wasn't going to read it :-( Hurt our feelings and made one mad. All we said to her was "The answer to all your questions is in here" and yet she still hasn't taken what we call the "golden" opportunity. Oh well. Her loss but our frustration.
Personal journals are though something that doesn't tend to translate to other people the same way it is to the writer(s)?
Because you have other strands of thought connecting the notes, and context for the experiences you're noting, but your therapist didn't live your life.
So of course they (the therapist) waits for an invitation, and a walk through your internal world and your life, it's only respectful.
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It's smart it wasn't taken.
One of the fastest ways to destabilize a person, especially if the trauma's taking over their executive functions in not a coordinated fashion at all, would be to jump straight into the trauma waters.
The therapist knowing, and respecting stabilization matters first, is not an ignorant one.
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Do you have a bit of an adversarial relationship with your therapist?
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I'm sorry but I don't understand your question
Are you and your therapist bit at odds with one another?
A kind of a relationship you're in opposition with one another?
A person that you perceive to be your opponent, against you?
(I hope I've found words for it fine. Not meaning to speak for Eve. :D)
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Thank you for clarifying. No we aren't. We have been working with each other for 9 years and I have learned quite a lot along my journey thanks not only to her but myself. Just recently based on an unfortunate event that occurred last year, I realized I have been dissociating my entire life. Then to go a step further I told her and eventually let her see the hell as it takes over my body. One of them in there as she terms them "parts" is very mean and the rest try not to let her out to any cherished relationships we have because they are hard to come by. Keep in mind I'm in the beginning stages of my T even knowing those who dwell inside so it's been very difficult
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