I can't do this anymore

[Casey_03]

I can't take care of this baby anymore. It's not working. He will not stop crying, he will not stop throwing up everything he eats. Doctors insist it's normal but there is no way in hell this is normal. I have not slept a wink in 4 days, before that got about an hour-two a night. I cannot walk anymore, cannot stop shaking. Keep having weird heart palpitations and trouble breathing. I started to nod out last night while feeding him and nearly dropped him. I cannot do this. I am not a fit mother. Somebody else needs to take him. I cannot raise him. I can't. He is better off with somebody, anybody else, maybe even the shithead father. I am seriously contemplating calling child services and just telling them I am incompetent and cannot take him and that somebody else needs to because I am at the brink and all I can think about is how I should have my head smashed in with a hammer and how that would be better for everyone involved here, especially the baby.

 

[joeylittle]

Call them. If that's what you need, it's what you need.

One way or another they might help.

 

[Neverthesame]

Is he maybe eating too much, or fast?

Would it maybe help to give him a bit, then stop. Let the little guys stomach settle for a bit, then give him more, then rinse repeat?

 

[intothelight]

@Casey_03 It isn't anything you are doing wrong as what your son is experiencing may be a touch of colic. It really will get better over time, but the most important thing is that you get some sleep. Is there anyone around that can help you with him, even if it is to watch him for a short stretch so you can get some rest?

 

[Casey_03]

I've tried literally everything. I give him a little and he still throws it up. Apparently no child services here apply to me because we are not citizens.

 

[Casey_03]

I don't think it's just colic. It goes on for way too long to be colic. He doesn't just spit up after feeding, he throws up unsuccessfully digested food, sometimes an hour or two later. He screamed in agony last night for 6 hours straight, and that is becoming the norm. He's not digesting food at all. He doesn't sleep anymore. He screams so much he turns purple and his vocal chords are all screwed up. None of the remedies for colic do anything. Nothing.

 

[Changing4Best]

I'm so sorry this is happened to you and your baby! I have never had any children, I was not able to, so I cannot give any parenting advice, but I can give emotional support. I am a sound sleeper. I can sleep through alarm clocks, thunder storms and such. I hardly have to be tired for this to happen even, it just does, even if I am not on many meds. Can you place the baby in a safe place and try to sleep even though he is screaming? If not sleep, just rest??

 

[Suzetig]

I would check with whoever is providing after care following your birth, who should be able to refer you to social services, your citizenship should make no difference when it comes to child protective services. I expect service availability might be fairly basic but individual states carry responsibility of the welfare of all resident children irrespective of nationality. The Ukraine are a signatory to the UNCRC and so have a duty to provide protection for all resident children, I'm guessing you might not be able to self refer in to services but your health provider/child's doctor can and should.

 

[Lotis]

I don't think it's just colic. It goes on for way too long to be colic. He doesn't just spit up after feeding, he throws up unsuccessfully digested food, sometimes an hour or two later.

Take him to the hospital. I don't like where this is going. We are talking about a helpless infant and a mother who is feeling rather unwell and is alone. Please go to the hospital. Even call 911. I agree with @Suzetig your citizenship should not make a difference when dealing with child protective services. I hope you and the baby can get help immediately.

 

[Casey_03]

Just spent several hours at the hospital. I was right - something is seriously wrong with a muscle in his stomach. He is literally unable to digest food and might require surgery.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

You are not an unfit mother. Your child and you will get the medical help needed. I hope you can get some rest while his medical situation is stabilized and resolved.

 

[Casey_03]

I hope so too. The one silver lining in this is that I finally found a doctor who actually acts like a doctor and wants to run tests instead of just chalking everything up to gas. i went through about 6 before him who had no interest in investigating the problem and just seemed to want to do the bare minimum. At least I found a doctor I can actually trust (so far).