Father With C-ptsd

[GrayOwl]

Hi Beth...
Sounds like you have a good plan. You have a lot of noble reasons for doing what you are.
I still urge caution and suggest you reach out when times are tough.
Even with a good plan and a strong will there are still down times.
If anything seems hazardous or is perplexing you can usually post a thread here and get answers, there is a lot of wisdom besides compassion at work here.
And please feel free to let us know how your day is going.
You bring a favorite quote to mind: "That which does not destroy us, makes us stronger."
And a compliment if you don't mind, Beth Powell sounds like a very strong person.
Keep up the good work. Take some time for Beth. You are important.

p.s.: I hope you have escape routes / exit strategies for yourself and others who may be in danger. It sounds like you do.

 

[Beth Powell]

Hi Beth...
Sounds like you have a good plan. You have a lot of noble reasons for doing what you are....

You are all such beautiful souls! I want to say a personal thank you too Gray Owl and The Void, I don't know what your story is or why you're both so wonderfully nice but you are phenomenal people! This site is probably the only helpful thing out there.. My dad's had C-PTSD for so bloody long and no one seems to be able to get through, if my dad wasn't so tense I'd suggest this site to him. I've never felt like I've ever before been given any type of help dealing with my dad's illness, but this site really does give you an in site to all the different types of c-ptsd, ptsd and other people who are dealing with this! Wife's... sons... husbands... boyfriends... You're all so bloody strong! It's such a motivator.. I'm rarely on my own post I find it so helpful with the anonymous post and chat forums with just real people's sh*t going on day to day and how they can someone find that silver lining. This site is a silver lining also you're all such wonderful people!
In other words you're all golden eggs, best served sunnyside up <3 so much love! <3

 

[Beth Powell]

Dear Beth,

You are not crazy.
You are being severely abused by your father.
The way he treats you is 100%...

I really really need help, I can't cope anymore all he does is lash out and hit me I have no help from my mum because she babies my dad. She allows him to hit me and treat me like shit. Then tells me to act like the adult I am. They're trying so hard to get me to move out but I am jobless, friendless I have no other family no grand parents/aunties/ uncles, I can't get help from anyone else. I have no idea what I should do who I should get help with because I am so old. He has ruined my whole life and attacks me at any given opportunity. He is literally a psychopath and their are still three other children besides from me here. I am the only one he lashes out at but what happens when I'm gone?

 

[GrayOwl]

Hi Beth.
I don't think things are ever hopeless.
Perhaps you are afraid of change, of that unknown step forward.
If all you've ever known is home and abuse, then that is familiar and not as frightening.
Be brave! Plan your escape.
We are never too old to seek what is right for us and good in our lives.
If the other three cannot or do not assist you, would it hurt them that bad to feel the sting of your fathers' abuse if you were at a safe distance?
It would probably hurt you more than it would them, you have such a kind heart. But perhaps then they might understand your pain or the need to stand together. Good things might come of it, although it is frightening to think, isn't it?
Be firm. Be persuasive. Convince Beth Powell that the best avenue for all is for Beth Powell to be safe and grow healthy, happy, and strong.
When you are in an abusive situation it is nearly impossible to think straight.
You and your family need help and therapy and you dear Beth Powell need a safe haven to heal and gather yourself.
Find the strength to reach out to the PROPER help nearby - police, medical, hospital, therapy....whatever you think best. You can heal and find a way to make ends meet, be it ever so humble.
Let us know what you think and how you feel and we will try to help and be here for you.
Thank you for getting online again and reaching out.
Don't be afraid. You can do it. One little bite at a time.:hug:

 

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I really really need help, I can't cope anymore all he does is lash out and hit me I have no help from my mum beca...

@ Beth Powell:hug:
I am so sorry to hear how much you are suffering.
It is hard for us to advise when we know so little about your complex situation.

What he is doing to you is illegal and is Criminal Assault.
Idk if Law Enforcement should be involved or if that would put you at greater risk.
I just don't know.:unsure:
You need professionals to help you.

If you have bruises, you could show them to a Doctor/Social Worker, etc.... and they are REQUIRED to get you help.
You need to be protected from him.........some how.

Oh Beth.........:(:(:(