Relationship Things I Have Learned From You Guys

[redsandy]

Hi guys,,,
Thank you all for such wonderful support, for empathetic ears, strong shoulders and honest candid conversation.
Things I have learned

An ass hole is an ass hole - regardless
You are a person before you are anything else, regardless of health.
This is an awesome place.
I have loved too much
Martyrdom is a fairy tale
There is no glory in being a shit
Nobody gets to decide how I should feel, or define my needs - I do that
I am the boss - I come first
I trust myself, I trust my boundaries - that is self care/love
knock, and the door will be opened
Ask, and it shall be given

And of course, I know I will wobble, I know I will falter - but I will get up and try again, because I am not alone - and refuse to suffer in silence anymore
This is NOT my fault

You guys are the best! And I hope I can give back as much as I have been so generously given - I pray that all who come here are lifted as much as I have been.
Red x

 

[Deleted member 33052]

I think you should celebrate your awesomeness! Glad you're here with us, red. :hug:

 

[redsandy]

I think you should celebrate your awesomeness! Glad you're here with us, red. :hug:

We are all fearfully and wonderfully made --- it's just that ass holes don't recognise it in any others than themselves hahaha
Yes,,,, the irony of me, it's obscene
But I really do feel my humour is understood here :)
Also, I'm elated, I'm having a lightbulb moment - the ridiculous behaviours of a narc,, ptsd or not,,are laughable when viewed from a healthy place
I'm giving my empathy to those who won't abuse it -- all you guys on here :)
X

 

[BlueOrange]

What a fantastically eloquent description! I didn't realise that I'd been learning the same things until you pointed it out.

 

[redsandy]

What a fantastically eloquent description! I didn't realise that I'd been learning the same things u...

Hey! The term fantastically eloquent is damn fantastically eloquent in itself!!
Here - have a virtual non endorsed English literature high level qualification from me,,,,, its hell loads better than the trophy system I've been awarded on, that I don't understand, but accept like a medal anyways :p LOL
I'm on a mission to use that phrase today - yesterday I used 'rat arsed Bastard' - I Learnt that here too hahahaha
I love being here :)
I love meeting all you guys :)
X

 

[UnKnown-Self]

You guys are the best! And I hope I can give back as much as I have been so generously given.

Welcome @redsandy
Your post is giving back. Part of healing is validation and being appreciated for ourselves. A rare and wondrous experience for anyone PTSD or not. Thank You!