Why Couldn't She Think Of This?

[lostforgottensoul]

I personally know a couple of people who have done just what I have stated and are quite successful, happy, wonderful individuals.

They were likely doing what I was doing, "trying to be gay", or trying to be straight. And figured out their actual sexual preference (it can take one years to figure out what they prefer); or they are focing themselves to be with the opposite gender than they actually prefer.

Honestly you dont know anyone is actually happy without being a true mind reader (and successful has no baring on this).

My opinions comes directly from trying to be a sexual preference I wasnt due to trauma. Trauma also has no baring on this as though I was abused by both genders, most were male. In your "logic", I should "make myself a lesbian" however, today, females is whom terrifies me and all Drs must be male and my sexual preference is hetrosexual.

 

[Deleted member 34535]

I have known a few people who did what you stated....basically went against what they felt and appe...

The ones that I know had very long-term relationships and were/are very content and happy.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

were/are very content and happy.

You'd have to be a mindreader to truely know this. Looking happy isnt happy and advising happy isnt necessarly happy and there's a possiblity of denial. I spent 10 yrs in denial, by all accounts including myself i was happy in reality i wasnt.

 

[illusionist]

Are you saying that they are gay, and share a happy fulfilled life with the opposite sex?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@illusionist, I think they are advising opposite since he was speaking of his mother "making herself lesbian" so that'd be a heterosexual going homosexual but either way is the exact same thing.

What I dont get is the the utter refusal to take in other information or even research the topic. Gaining actual scientific facts.

 

[illusionist]

Of course, silly me. As you say @lostforgottensoul they are the same. Thanks for reminding me.

This place has given me a lot of aha moments.....learned a lot about myself. This is because I've been open to what others have given their opinion on, or given facts on.

I do hope the Op uses this place in the way which best benefits them.

 

[Neverthesame]

@crc53liamt If you just wanted to dig your heels in and call us wrong, why did you phrase your OP as a question?

If you simply want to be agreed with, that's fine. If I may suggest, in future you may wish to note that in the title or body of the post. This will ensure you get the responses you will find most helpful to you.

 

[Sideways]

I'm sorry, but to my knowledge, sexual preference is not, and never has been, a way to "just" recover from trauma.

Lesbians, gays, bis,heteros - we all suffer from trauma.

If it were that simple, perhaps you should have a crack at 'just becoing gay'.

 

[anonymous]

It's also, reaaaalllly not easy being a lesbian. Especially when one hits the menopause. Sigh. I hate how people think it would be so great when it just isn't. It comes with its own set of problems.