Seasounds
Diamond Member
How can it be, that in 2016, a male lawyer would make a victim-blaming statement to a female, to myself, when I was not at fault, for being in the store?
It feels like double indemnity. I understand why someone would become a vigilante.
To tell you the truth, it felt like being a child in an abusive home, again; suppose-to-be 'protectors' implicate and/or shame the victim.
Fortunately, much quicker than before, I noticed this. In fact, instantaneously, I interrupted the lawyer, looked straight at him, and said, "Stop, you are victim-blaming."
Then I changed the topic to the practicalities of my concern. In the end, all male and corporate privileges included, the lawyer recommended, even though the company was negligent in not handling a perpetrator, it was best to, "Drop it."
The worst that came from this was that I had increased depression for the next few days.
The best that came out of this was that I found 1. that I was able to speak up for myself much faster, and that by 2. attending an Alanon Family Group, soon afterwards (i.e. a quick intervention) at least I began to mitigate the lawyers immature comment, and interrupt the internal negative thinking.
The piece that I am working on, is finding peace, as a woman in a system that still privileges men. I find strength in the movement 'Black Lives Matter'. Even though culture, in this instance is not validating for me, I know that I do matter, I can have a voice; in our current culture, I need to be skillful, judicious, and connected to support.
Hello, my friends!
How do you find peace and empowerment in situations involving the system's built in prejudices?
.
It feels like double indemnity. I understand why someone would become a vigilante.
To tell you the truth, it felt like being a child in an abusive home, again; suppose-to-be 'protectors' implicate and/or shame the victim.
Fortunately, much quicker than before, I noticed this. In fact, instantaneously, I interrupted the lawyer, looked straight at him, and said, "Stop, you are victim-blaming."
Then I changed the topic to the practicalities of my concern. In the end, all male and corporate privileges included, the lawyer recommended, even though the company was negligent in not handling a perpetrator, it was best to, "Drop it."
The worst that came from this was that I had increased depression for the next few days.
The best that came out of this was that I found 1. that I was able to speak up for myself much faster, and that by 2. attending an Alanon Family Group, soon afterwards (i.e. a quick intervention) at least I began to mitigate the lawyers immature comment, and interrupt the internal negative thinking.
The piece that I am working on, is finding peace, as a woman in a system that still privileges men. I find strength in the movement 'Black Lives Matter'. Even though culture, in this instance is not validating for me, I know that I do matter, I can have a voice; in our current culture, I need to be skillful, judicious, and connected to support.
Hello, my friends!
How do you find peace and empowerment in situations involving the system's built in prejudices?
.
