Rescue fantasy

[Bristol]

Is it just me or does anyone else sturggle with the concept of working on their own recovery on the basis that somewhere out in the world there is someone trekking across deserts to come and rescue them? As a little girl i used to dream about being rescued and even now all i want is someone to come along throw me over their shoulder and take me away. It doesnt help my feeling of loneliness because they have never come and the adult in me knows they wont. Just wanted to check i wasnt a complete freak on this front!

 

[Ronin]

You're not a freak at all.

I think it's common.

Not really, here, I look for tools to get my head out of my you know where, to rescue myself, but whatever gives you strength to keep going, is good.

 

[Gs172003]

Please don't. I did that and ended up with husband #3./found out i wasn't rescued and now I'm here. No it's not hubby 3's fault but it's not realistic to expect to be rescued. Though it would be nice. Though I still find myself running to people alot ( sorry Joey little)

 

[Ironlady]

Not at all.. it happens to me a lot. Or I'll fantasize being severely hurt physically and want to be held.. all internal injuries seeking validation to be seen/ comfort. But ultimately I can only rescue myself. There is no rescuer.

 

[Lionheart]

I think it is a common fantasy to want to be rescued.

However, if it only leads to disappointment it may be time to readjust your priorities to allow yourself to heal regardless of whether or not someone comes along to save you.

As Jewel said in her song, "Who will save your soul, if you won't save your own?"

You are not a freak @Bristol1485 , I think it's totally normal to want to be rescued but, I am just not so sure it is realistic.

I can't rescue you, but I can send some healing hugs, some thoughts and prayers for you...

wishing you peace, comfort, and happiness,

Lionheart777

 

[Bristol]

Thank you all for taking the time to message on this. Having a lonely day which is why this is bothering me. I think part of me has always held on to the thought of my real dad coming back but that would require a full personality change for him so i know its doubtful. Guessing best way forward is to work our what i think he would give me and give it to myself, id probably be far better at it anyway!

Thank you all :hug:

 

[Lionheart]

always held on to the thought of my real dad coming back but that would require a full personality change for him so i know its doubtful.

People do change and who knows? maybe he will change and come back, but that may or may not happen and my heart goes out to you!!!

BTW, I think your plan is a good one. Give yourself the love you are missing and keep moving forward. I admire your determination and courage to face facts and move forward with healing.

with your permission I will pray for you.

Hope the loneliness eases off for you!!!!

Healing hugs
:hug::hug::hug:
Lionheart

 

[Bristol]

People do change and who knows? maybe he will change and come back, but that may or may not happen...

I have thought that for the last 15 years but in the days of google and social media i know that if he wanted me he would have found me by now but its fine im sure once i get on my feet i wont need him anyway! Thank you Lionheart your support has brightened my day :)

 

[Lionheart]

Anytime my friend. I am no stranger to loneliness or disappointment so you are in good company. Be extra special good to yourself, you deserve to be loved and cared for.

God Bless,
Lion

 

[angel2write]

To me, it doesn't sound like you're fantasizing about being rescued, just about being loved. Is that possible?

Someone to take you, hold you, touch you gently, look at you kindly, comfort you when you're sad, laugh with you when you're happy... that's just love. If that's what you want, it's not impossible. It can happen.

I know our parents were supposed to do that stuff. Sounds like yours didn't, but that doesn't mean you can't find someone who can. I fantasized for so long that my dad would love me. He never did, but my husband does. Not perfect, but it feels good to be touched and held and comforted.

 

[Bristol]

To me, it doesn't sound like you're fantasizing about being rescued, just about being loved. Is tha...

From what you wrote maybe your right, i suppose the idea of being rescued would be short lived but its always been someone who comes into my life and stays so maybe it is more of that. My husband is a good man but he doesnt know any of this side of things so i suppose there has always been a hole in it, whereas when i think of being resched that person knows everything and wants to look after me from then on

 

[angel2write]

that person knows everything and wants to look after me from then on

I wish you could have that person. You should get that. I'm sorry you don't have anyone like that. (sad)