People Faking Ptsd

[Fogej]

I realised lately that I can actually get triggered if I feel like someone is faking mental illness, PTSD, depression etc. I actually kind of hate myself for it, but I also do think you can tell.
I get triggered as it just seems to add more weight to the invalidation of me.
i have a friend who I feel feigned mental illness.
The one main reason it felt unreal to me is that she never lost trust in others, and she could come out of "isolating" very quickly if it was something she wanted to do.
But who am I to judge another?
Still it's hard hearing someone talk of how they suffered what you have lived and you can see it hasn't really affected them on a deep level - and you know if they really had suffered it they would not have remained unchanged. And that can stir up so much grief at the changes in me and the losses in my life.
And then I wonder what's wrong with me that I have let this thing affect me so greatly
And then I feel angry that it feels somehow glamorous to claim PTSD when it is the furthest thing from glamorous I can imagine if you're actually living it.
And they would know that if they were living it.
But it's like everything; you don't know until you know. It's like calling sorrow depression - two very different things, but until you have depression you don't know that!
SoMe people want the attention - maybe that's a sign in itself! I think most people with PTSD kind of want to disappear, blend into the wallpaper.
I'm generalising I know...

 

[Udiri]

Sometimes I want to believe that I am faking!! Molestation, rapes,physical abuse as a kid, witnessing domestic violence...domestic violence, rape as an adult, traumatically losing new born baby girl, hypervigilence, flashbacks, panic attacks, . . . Who the .... would want to fake all this?!?

 

[Teduwo]

As a man, I feel like the only "acceptable" reason to have PTSD is through combat. If you have PTSD as a man and are not a veteran - especially when you got it due to sexual reasons - you might as well just cut off your balls. Both men and women will think you're some kind of wimp, and not really much of a man at all.

 

[Cidopov]

Yup. I stepped into a psych's office and he told me he handled vets and he didn't think I had PTSD in the first five minutes. How do you tell if someone has PTSD by looking at them?

At the end he had to admit that yes, I did.

We have so many who think that unless you're in the military that you can't have seen or been a part of daily violence and abuse. If that were only true. I can't fathom the naive innocence where someone can believe that there is no trauma beyond military service. That kind of belief seems to me like something most people lose after they hit 5 years old. I wonder what kind of life you'd have to have to believe that? How perfect, soft and sheltered would it have to be?

I don't know.

I suppose if I did, I wouldn't be here.

 

[Huton]

If someone thinks they have ptsd and self diagnose so they can help themselves to Internet and library resources, I can...

You can't be serious...

 

[Uwih]

And everyone needs feminism. Men can cry and be victims with dignity then. They can be stay at home dads without shame or guilt, they can talk it through in therapy without being labelled.

Everyone needs feminism, because we should all treat any gender with dignity due a human being.

You don't "need feminism" because "<insert> gave you PTSD". Feminism doesn't cure PTSD.

As for the post, it was probably an MRA troll trying to show how "teh wimmens" act. *rolls eyes*

 

[Ufoj]

I have a harder time dealing with the highly paid professionals who apparently fake having valuable knowledge/skills/abilities that can actually help those seeking their services. They're the ones who made my life a living a hell, not the other desperate folks who are hurting like hell, for whatever reason, and seeking quality care.

 

[Izefov]

Yeah, I, the man with non-combat PTSD, need feminism like a fish needs a bicycle.

Until someone appoints a popess of feminism who can kick out the #KillAllMen crowd, I plan to stay far away from you lot.

 

[Mowev]

Yeah, I, the man with non-combat PTSD, need feminism like a fish needs a bicycle.

Until someone appoints a popess of f...

The actual definition of feminism is to promote gender equality. But yeah, reasonable and scholarly feminists hate the "kill all men" radical crowd too, especially since men are severely affected by the messed up gender roles too. Because femininity is seen as negative, toxic masculinity arises and society then expects men to be physically strong, assertive, aggressive, domineering and emotionless at all times. Crying is girly. Men are manly men and aren't allowed to have emotions and feel pain. Men can't be raped. Men have to be assholes at all times. Men can't be sensitive or show weakness etc. And lots of people forget that the "buffness" of men in movies where you can see abs is actually mostly the result of starvation for days. Which is horrible and complete bullshit. Lots of feminist scholars do research on toxic masculinity, but unfortunately a lot of the radical half tends to be idiots.

 

[Ovar]

Frankly, the whole concept of "toxic masculinity" is an excuse for (some) women to tar all masculine actions and activities as, well, toxic. It tends to come from the same crowd who use terms like "mansplaining," "manspreading," and other BS. A different group than the KillAllMenners but just as bad from my male perspective.

Masculinity is the method by which (most) women are attracted to men. Take that away, and you get a society full of women who ask where all the heroes/good men have gone, and a society full of men who can't even get a date and have no idea why. And that's whwere we're headed, and some would say that's where we are now ...

 

[Opam]

I'm female, Ovar, and I see what you see too.
I'm glad of many of the changes - I'm glad consciousness has risen about the old gender inequality. It wasn't right how it was, but it became a war of power. and women are just as seduced by power as men.
I shudder when I hear that "all men" talk. When people talk "all" anyone, it's always going to be narrow minded, prejudicial, dangerous talk.
Why can't we just really be equal? Not better! Different but equal.
I also see that alongside the growing empowerment of women, porn has grown more hardcore and vicious towards women. That frightens me and makes me feel there are a lot of men who qualify in those "all men" conversations. Men who basically hate women.
I think the sexes don't like each other as much as we used to.
Maybe this is just a phase along the way to true equality. I hope so.
A lot of people, men and women, live alone now. It used to be unusual, but it's very usual now.

 

[Imasa]

As a man, I feel like the only "acceptable" reason to have PTSD is through combat. If you have PTSD as a man and are not a veteran

I'm getting that a lot now and I'm female. I am trying to train my dog to be my PTSD service dog and am in great need for a service dog both for PTSD and mobilty, per my doctors, and I am getting slammed doors due to not being a veteran. Most people with PTSD aren't veterans. I was raised in a cult which is what led to PTSD and that can be true for a male as well as myself. Many males have come out about being raised in cults in recent yrs. Like what the f*ck? So i don't get equal help for an equal disorder simply because I am not a veteran?

I'm not saying a male has to be raised in a cult to have PTSD. I was just advising about my trauma and how easy that could be a male victim. Males are victims of sexual assult and many other traumas as well and its sad we, as a society, can't see that in 2017.