Sex with therapist

[anthony]

Then he said but if she does then that means I can start seeing you again.

He is manipulating you IMHO. He has been caught, he wants to not be in trouble and thus continue to practice and do this to others. You're in denial if you think he is willing to throw 6+ years of education down the chute just for you. Like above, you are likely not the first he has done this with. He should not be allowed to practice and you should seek a healthier relationship.

 

[Casey_03]

I'm wondering if the reason she had/has such a strong reaction to you is because maybe she knows of him doing this to other women in the past (as @anthony mentioned above). That would explain her behavior completely, and now that you mention her acting that way, it sounds about right. This may be a pattern of his. Even if he told you otherwise and claimed to have never done anything like this before, there's absolutely no reason to believe that is true.

 

[anonymous]

Ok. Um. Wow. Just, wow. I have to say it. He is a total creep. If you care about yourself at all, you'll stay away from him for good. He's totally taken advantage of you, behaved unethically and sounds, actually..incredibly manipulative.

 

[Toralu312]

Ok. Um. Wow. Just, wow. I have to say it. He is a total creep. If you care about yourself at a...

Thank you, everyone! This validation that I did nothing wrong is extremely helpful. Now to get to the bottom of why I'm attracted to older men, why I seek out unhealthy and abusive relationships with men, why I keep trying so hard after I've been rejected, and how I can overcome this and date a nice, normal person! (Once I'm divorced of course). Thank you, all.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Now to get to the bottom of why I'm attracted to older men, why I seek out unhealthy and abusive relationships with men, why I keep trying so hard after I've been rejected, and how I can overcome this and date a nice, normal person

Yep, something I need to fix too. I am out of the dating arena for the exact same reason but I play out some of the more taboo parts of my trauma that isn't healthy at all and so, with the help from my therapist, I took myself out of the dating game for now until I can date in a much more healthy way.

 

[anonymous]

why I'm attracted to older men

good for you, leave him and his stupid partner or whatever she is to their dysfunctional crap and yes, find a nice guy :tup:

I know that I personally had been attracted to older women because my mother abused me and it was as if I was trying to recreate that relationship (for whatever reason), maybe you have something similar going on.. Or maybe a desire for older men to care for you because perhaps your father didn't.. Something like that? Sorry if I'm way off base with that, just thinking out loud. I wish you all the best in your future. Can't imagine the look on that creep's face when he realises you're done with him! :D:hug:

 

[Toralu312]

good for you, leave him and his stupid partner or whatever she is to their dysfunctional crap and yes...

Yes, you hit the nail on the head. My father was emotionally cold and basically rejected me. Then I was raped at 17 by a father figure (friend's dad), so, yes, I'm trying to actualize a better relationship than my history...so I'm attracted to older men. Oy. Anyway, thank you very much for your sweet message, it has given me confidence!!

 

[anonymous]

It's great when you realise the answers.. Well, when I did, I came to realise that my partner who was considerably older than me was abusive and actually very similar to my mother! We've separated now and I don't feel the need to recreate that again. I hope you'll find a lovely guy, probably nearer your age too.. After all.. That manipulative T you had, won't be around as long as you and a new guy ;):D

 

[Boru]

Through reading all of this thread though, in retrospect, please try to stay open with therapy and future relationships. For example, as long as people say at least semi-positive things about you on this thread, you respond and seem like you are hearing people, when anything goes any bit into helpful criticism or criticism, you seem to be throwing up your walls and plugging your ears.

 

[Friday]

his ex business partner, who still works in his office as they are sorting out the details , walked in. She began yelling at me and swearing at me and then yelling at him and swearing at him. She called the police and told them that I went to her office to harass her. None of this is true, I have never met her before, I have never seen her before,

Gross. Considering she's never met you? She only has what he's told her to go off of. Which sounds like he's told her you're unstable and harassing him, that he was never really in a relationship with you, to try and save his license.

Her treatment of me was so unprofessional, it reminded me of how I'm treated at home. It's also worth it to note that they had a relationship for about 10 years and it only ended about a year ago.

Also sounds like that relationship was probably a little less "ex" than you were led to believe. That's just not the reaction of a professional dealing with a client. That's the reaction of a girlfriend who just caught her boyfriend cheating.

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What a lying manipulative predatory asshole. I really hope his license is stripped.

I also really hope you can bring this to the table with your new therapist who can help you with the reporting process.

 

[Leckey]

Thank you. That's what I've always wanted in a partner. I've chosen the wrong people for a multitude...

I went through my own, in a very fragile state, yet got through it, and as I healed (couple years) was able to move into and have a relationship that included far more of me. Been uphill ever since. Hang in there.

 

[Toralu312]

I went through my own, in a very fragile state, yet got through it, and as I healed (couple years) was a...

:) thank you.