Yes Jimmy, I have been away from the forum for a while as I have not had a lot of spare time lately.
Not only do I have to care for my husband full time, a 12yo with Aspergers, a 15yo with Add/behavioural challenges, child doing her HSC and I suffer from a chronic pain disorder (as a result of stress). All of my kids are well informed about their fathers' condition and receive counseling to help them deal with his condition, though it still has a very marked impact on them, especially his constant overdoses, seeing him in ICU, his black and white thinking and his anger issues.
As for the right therapy, well, my husband has had about all the therapy anyone could possibly need but nothing seems to have any lasting benefits, he is in hospital again as of early this week, thankfully not an emergency visit but an attempt by his Psychiatrist to give me some respite from his behaviour and I think a wee bit of hope that something might have some lasting benefit, something we all hope for every time he spends time in hospital.
All any of us can do is hope for some improvement, any improvement, as this is no way for us to live.
I think the most unfortunate thing about all of it is that regardless of the excellent medical treatment he receives and unconditional love and support we have all give him, he can not treat us with the respect we deserve and we get very little of anything positive from him, we also get very little real support or desperately needed practical/physical/financial support from either my husband or anyone else, we are just collateral damage.
It now seems that here like most other Combat PTSD specific related support, that we, the spouses/family have been thrown back into the general population to try and manage as best we can by ourselves.
This is a great shame as regardless of my absence for what ever reasons I felt good knowing that there was somewhere I could go for information and understanding that is not really available elsewhere.