I May Or May Not Be Engaged.

[Dustin]

It is hard to find someone who is willing to share a life with you and your beast. That is another reason to give it some time. He may be able to handle the beast for now but can he sustain the tolerance forever? Tough call. I wish you all the best. If he truly can live with you and the beast, don't let him get away.

 

[Wagon]

Even just last night he was complaining about his upcoming sea deployment, and how he'll be trapped in a metal box for six months

I don't know. We all die the same. The difference between ground and ship. The Navy will generally kill off a mass of their own people every once in awhile so the numbers don't look so skewed.

Squids don't generally die onsee twosee's. When we do take a hit....We like to go to the great geedunk stand in the sky in a big group........................ so we can have a line to goof off in.

Playing the "Toughen the f*ck up" card with your significant other is never a great idea. Don't work, tried. Several times. Royal f*ck up.

Keep the beast in check. Don't let the f*cker out. It's enough you have the damn thing. But using it as an excuse for behavior. Sorry, you lost the battle.

Just because you tell someone you have the beast, it does not mean the bastard is invited to dinner and a three way. You can quote me on that.

Wagon.

 

[Anglesachse]

I have to second Wagon on that. Having the beast doesn`t justify actions in any way shape or form.

Yeah we have our days when the world falls to shit, but that is the day we need to stand up and say "F*ck I let the bastard get the upper hand, and I shouldnt have let that happen"

"WE" are responsible for what we do, and no one else, and most certainly not PTSD.

 

[Tim Cake]

"Tread slowly, tread lightly"! (another quote from my counselor -- a Force Recon Marine)

 

[RC135Linguist]

At the ripe old age of 58 it's been my observation that all too often those who rush into marriage do so out of fear that if they wait too long, then they just might discover all the faults in their partner that would otherwise make them change their minds about the marriage to begin with. It's like "Hurry up, let's get married before I uncover those unique characteristics in you that will eventually make me despise you!" It sounds kind of funny when I put it that way, but it has rung true for all too many of the couples I have known over the years.

And, even with cell phones and Skype and all the other technical social networking advances of today, long distance dating still doesn't come close to the benefits of two people spending quality time together in the same geographic area while they really get to know each other over the course of months or years. Sure, there's lots of laughs and giggles talking on the phone and revealing each others private parts over an Internet connection - but there's really no intimacy to be had in looking at and touching a computer screen. It's really no substitute for two people getting to know each other in person.

If the excitement of a life full of quickie marriages and divorces is your deal, then go for number 2 in your quest for the world's record. Be forewarned, though, that my experience has shown that those relationships that start off the quickest and heaviest usually end just as quickly, and in a fairly nasty fashion.

 

[Squaddiedave]

Wise words VietnamAerialRecon

 

[Raven]

At the ripe old age of 58 it's been my observation that all too often those who rush into marriage do so out of fear that if they wait too long, then they just might discover all the faults in their partner that would otherwise make them change their minds about the marriage to begin with. It's like "Hurry up, let's get married before I uncover those unique characteristics in you that will eventually make me despise you!" It sounds kind of funny when I put it that way, but it has rung true for all too many of the couples I have known over the years.

And, even with cell phones and Skype and all the other technical social networking advances of today, long distance dating still doesn't come close to the benefits of two people spending quality time together in the same geographic area while they really get to know each other over the course of months or years. Sure, there's lots of laughs and giggles talking on the phone and revealing each others private parts over an Internet connection - but there's really no intimacy to be had in looking at and touching a computer screen. It's really no substitute for two people getting to know each other in person.

If the excitement of a life full of quickie marriages and divorces is your deal, then go for number 2 in your quest for the world's record. Be forewarned, though, that my experience has shown that those relationships that start off the quickest and heaviest usually end just as quickly, and in a fairly nasty fashion.

Although we started Skyping right away after we met online in April, we decide not to "ruin the surprise" until I got there in June. But yes. You have an excellent point. However, there's nobody nearly as awesome around where I currently live. If there is, I haven't met him yet, obviously.

When the initial sparks are not there, I bail extremely quickly. I like that "punch drunk love" feeling you sometimes get with a new relationship. In fact, if that initial passion is absent, then I fail to see the point of it.

Raven

You are in a tough situation. And it ain't an easy choice for sure. However, you said

"It's like everything about him sends up a red flag, and I start coming up with reasons as to why it won't work out and casting the blame on him."

Now, I don't know about blame, but the whole red flag thing could be something to pay attention to. There is a reason these flags pop up. I am sure you have great intuition...don't ignore it. That gut feeling and the little hairs on the back of your kneck are the two greatest trouble detectors we have. And, as JarHed said, if he really loves ya, he will be willing to wait. Food for thought...

On another note, what you said to Gary is priceless!

Heh. I issued that death threat to his shipmate who spoke ill of me, only having met me briefly.

 

[tho9900]

we talked last night R.. go slow... but have fun girly... :) I know you enough now to know you know when to cut your losses and regroup and form up, and no didn't doubt you... just got two sisters so used to being protective and ya you will understand... I am a medic as well... look out for my troops.. (Marines in my case)... thanks btw.. will holler closer to the weekend work is killing me right now! omg I wouldnt mind so much working for a school district if it wasnt for all these damn kids and the teachers! ;)

 

[BV101]

Gary the Squid? I've not read past that. Is he a real squid?

 

[Raven]

Gary the Squid? I've not read past that. Is he a real squid?

His tentacles do it for me. So many appendages...

 

[Sarg]

Oh, god! Allen's out of his padded cell again. Who's week is it to be the "keeper of the keys"?

You really need to change your avatar, Allen, I'm starting to have strange dreams about that woman's tongue!

Sarg

 

[Wagon]

The pic is me as an optimistic youth.