The older i get, the more i hate people...

[J_trustno1]

Does anyone suffer from the similar?

When I was growing up, I used to feel the need to impress other and please family so that I can get their approval. At university I was trying to be a social butterfly but it resulted me in more shit than I originally was in.

I'm turning 29 at the end of this month and with time I have experienced that not many people are your friends because majority are there to get some sort of benefits out of you, and even relatives plus your own father can be one of those selfish people. I am losing my love for humankind day by day and I feel it links back to my trauma, past and present experiences with other people. I am getting very bitter and cold and I avoid human contact at any cost because I end up getting hurt by wrong types of people.

Does anyone else feel this?

 

[Gs172003]

Lol not hate but get aggravated at. Easily.

 

[Nevermore]

i was similar when I was in my 20's, big time people pleAser. And similarly it didn't end well for me, but I had no idea about boundaries, my own or anyone else's.
I went through a stage of feeling like you do, but in reality I was just really confused and really disillusioned.
It was painful!
I'm a lot more discerning now, and a lot less idealistic - lot more realistic.
People are faulted, some more than others. I'm faulted too.
But there are still good people - people who can make you laugh, people you can love!
But def not all people!

 

[Freedomfighter]

Does anyone suffer from the similar?

When I was growing up, I used to feel the need to impress oth...

Yeah, that's me because the majority of people are not good people, that's all. When I do not like someone it is not because of my own incapability to appreciate or love but rather the realization that the person or persons in front of me are pieces of crap.

I was looking at the post about the young man with cerebral palsy. When I watched that link I had more respect for that person than all of the people together that I see on a regular basis every day. True sincerity, true humanity is very rare nowadays.

I react to people that are sincere and this world is getting worse. Things were different 20 or 30 years ago. Each and every generation that follows seems to have less morals, less humanity than the one before. Sign of the times.

I do not react to people who are insincere, no matter what they do.
As a PTSD victim it is especially tough to trust, for me the fact that people who acted trustworthy towards me turned out to be some of the worst predators in my life against which I have to fight with every fiber in myself.

After that I simply do not allow the time or effort for anyone to simply attempt to get close for their own selfish need, and that in a nutshell is the description of most people. You are exactly right, most people only get close to you in order to get something out of it for themselves.

Perhaps this hate saves us from destruction.

 

[8888]

The Older I Get, The More I Hate People who are insensitive.

 

[EveHarrington]

I am realizing more and more that I simply do not like people.

I'm dumb enough to believe people when they say they care----but they don't.

 

[Rani G2]

wing up, I used to feel the need to impress other

Hey j_trustno,

i am a blah person, so I might write blah. The realisation that many human minds are stuck in their own cycle, unreflected, makes them unattractive to me. They live in their own worlds and with their own stories. Why should I be different? Guess there aint no big difference. Hate? Nah....Not sure about that, as I dont mind others taking care of me. So, it makes sense to act human. Maybe more grief and dissapointment.
I have removed my self from people as if to test my feelings of selfsufficiency. There is a voice that tells me “Be in the isolation, you dont need anyone“.

Its a difficult struggle in a body that wont exist forever, between hope and cynical delusion.

 

[illusionist]

I've come to realize that it's not them, it's me. People are people, but I generally find them hard work...harder as the years have went on. I think I expect too much.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Yeah, that's me because the majority of people are not good people

Not true, that is a distortion. Most people are good people. There are bad people out there obviously and one needs to disern if one is "good" or "bad" but to say most are bad is simply incorrect and its keeping you locked in that mindset completely unchallenged.

 

[Heather]

I find people exhausting and I have recoiled from even trying to make friends.

I've worked hard in therapy and what my therapist has been saying for months has finally sunk in, "don't take anything personally cause it's not you it's about them"

Knowing that helps to keep from getting disappointed.

If I have a nice encounter with someone it feels good but I leave it at that.

 

[SkipV2017]

I'm an adult survivor of many types of abuse - chiefly among them are physical, emotional, and mental. Those are what I want to focus on for this comment. I grew up in a household where my father was the abuser. He was bought up in an abusive home. So, he brought that tradition with him into our family. I was overweight most of my life. I was always made fun of because of it. I was put on public display at times by my father so strangers could laugh at the big belly on the fat kid. I carry the scars of the abuse to this day. I was made fun of by my brothers because of my weight. I was made fun of in school because I was an awkward kid and didn't fit in with the "cool kids". I dated women who were mentally and emotionally abusive - with 1 of them being physically abusive as well. But, I had to be a "man", to "man up" and not talk about it.

I carry all of that with me to this day. The effects of that are still on me to this day. I have severe PTSD, anxiety problems, and have problems relating to people emotionally. I don't trust people because whenever I do, I end up getting betrayed and hurt. When stressed, I tend to get mouthy at people and short with then. When I feel I have been wronged, threatened, or accused of something by other people, I tend to tell them all a fond "(blank) you" and disappear from their lives entirely. A lot of times, I overreact. And because of what I have suffered when I was growing up, I internalize it. I get embarrassed by my strong reactions and usually never go back to those relationships or areas ever again. As a result, I have a lot of burned bridges behind me. I am on disability and I isolate.

Why am I telling all of you all of this? Because I want to show you that I can relate. I'm an abuse survivor and I understand why you start to hate people. I have gotten a lot more touchy and a lot more guarded as I got older. I am now middle aged and, according to my doctors, a couple years short of the grave. I hope that what I share here with you will help you see that what happens to you isn't your fault. No one deserves to be abused.

 

[Butterflies2023]

Does anyone suffer from the similar?

When I was growing up, I used to feel the need to impress oth...

Agree!!! And agree with other posts. Because of my PTSD and working so hard in life to support my kids (all grown and happy and successful) I don't have time for these needy attention seeking drama people at work or anywhere else. I am much less tolerant of the 1/2 ass service received and now voice my opinion about it. People who constantly need self affirmation - attention - praise - for the littlest thing. At my work there are the ones who are so thin and talk EVERY DAY about their nutrition and fear of weight gain. (I am average and yes I do enjoy a piece of chocolate now and then). But these are the same people that every detail on life is SO IMPORTANT! Extremely self centered. Again I don't have any sympathy or empathy for these people any more.