I am not for appeasement by any stretch.
Of course, I understand this.
is there a way we can acknowledge their feelings and try to nudge them toward their better selves?
This is such a major question for me. I've too many friends, and with their permission I am permitted to add PoC, that are not interested in the perpetuation of the hate they've had to endure ALL of their lives, only to have this dramatic uptick in the last several months. A black woman, a friend, and a single mother in my trauma therapy group is simply devastated and, well re-traumatized. Another native american friend is simply incredulous. These two women in particular, whose voices have been ignored, marginalized and terrorized, add the verve of my response here of late. I'm not sure I want to acknowledge "their" (right wing etc etc) "feelings." What is happening has a generational and institutional aspect that is going to be damn hard to dismantle and it all make me so so sad, and yes, so so angry.
All this to say, I don't know the best path either.
Thanks to all for the dialogue and the acceptance/tolerance of my anger.
PS. I was just gently reminded to include my friend/neighbor who had a swastika carved into the sidewalk in front of her home several months ago which I believe was mentioned on this thread. And yes, she has two small children. And yes, she is Jewish, and lives in Berkeley.