Evicting roommate

[Muttly]

Today, I am going to give my roommate/tenant an eviction notice. There's so much more to say, but the short version is he reminds me of my crazy family and I'm super triggered. I don't think he's a threat but right now I'm just all squeezed up inside and feel like I can't deal.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Today, I am going to give my roommate/tenant an eviction notice.

I have been through something similar along time ago and I was super stressed and triggered like you. It is a very intense experience to go through when you are feeling afraid of the unknown things. I hope you have some objects for example like a stuffie to cuddle and calm yourself or some kind of special object to help you to ground yourself that you can carry in your pocket.

You are perfectly normal for what you have been through and experienced with this person. I wish you could have a friend to be with you today so that you will have somebody on your side that is there to watch your back for you and to keep you nice and distracted.

You can always do something like journaling your thoughts and feelings either here or in a notebook too, I have done that before if no one could be with me and I would reassure myself that everything is going to eventually turn out for the best for you. It is a process that takes time and it may have its own set of stresses.

Just remember to keep on deep breathing to prevent you from going into panic mode. Do things to focus on the present moment and do not what if yourself or should yourself either. It is going to end well for you.

You have been quite strong and you are taking good care of yourself right now and you deserve to have calm and peaceful life.

He is not going to like and as he is a manipulator expect some ugliness but hold steady and be a broken record just saying to him that it has not worked out as you wanted and he has to go and give him a time limit to get out.

Just in case he pitches a fit, not saying he is going to, you have the option of calling the police and having them escort him out until he calms down just in case he is stoned or whatever and does pitch a fit.

Try not to worry or obsess. I know easier said than done. You are enough to manage this and I am very proud of you. You have this. Just be prepared for the worst and do hope for the best. Maybe he is realizing that you are not going to be pushed around or manipulated anymore and may be looking to leave himself. It just did not work out like you hoped. Good luck crossing my fingers for you.

 

[Muttly]

it's just so triggering. he reminds me so much of my crazy family. he keeps saying different things. the truth keeps changing. And I mean, he says stuff about me that's ridiculous like saying I have drug addiction issues which I've never had.

this morning he was being nice to me because he wanted me to be mad at his friend (the mutual acquaintance). I know though, at any moment I could be the demon again

And always he's the vicitm.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

the truth keeps changing. And I mean, he says stuff about me that's ridiculous like saying I have drug addiction issues which I've never had.

It sounds like he is projecting his issues onto you and sounds like he just flat out lying as well. It is going to be intense but you can do this. It sounds like he is trying to get you to fight him so he can be the good guy in his own eyes and perhaps someone elses too.

This guy is just plain bad news and is so bad for you to spend any time with, I think. Can you go somewhere to get away from him?

 

[Muttly]

I've been avoiding the house most of the day. He was screaming all kinds of horrible stuff into the phone at his friend earlier. his friend has been his main conduit of money. so... now his friend has bought him a plane ticket and supposedly he is leaving tonight? he's packing so maybe it will happen? I know I should be happy but I am in panic mode. I just keep expecting awful to happen. I am in full blown PTSD mode.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

now his friend has bought him a plane ticket and supposedly he is leaving tonight? he's packing so maybe it will happen

Crossing my fingers for you now and saying prayers that he is leaving tonight. I understand your feelings, probably very normal for all of the crap this guy has put you through so on the inside you know that he is powder keg. Keep on doing whatever you can to remain as centered and calm as possible. I am really hoping that it will be this easy.:hug:

 

[Muttly]

He leffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffft!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

whew

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Hahahahahahahahaha I am so happy you are freeeeeee!!!!!!!!!! You did it. I am so very elated that you got this guy out of your life. Now you can heal and recover. Big cyber hugs.:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

 

[Muttly]

@Rain you have been so awesome. Thank you for your support. There's all these little pieces of info I haven't shared because I'm so embarrassed that I got sucked in. I feel like I should have known better. I am really glad that he and my dog started having problems because I was so frightened for my dog, it made it easier for me to setup boundaries and not cave.

 

[The Albatross]

Well done Muttly... now decompress and self evaluate what you can do better if/when there is a "next time".