How many people feel like they don't belong?

[MrMoonlight]

Belonging to self first is where I feel I, and many others, really got tripped up along the way.

Hitting me deeply with this thought. When I parent myself and allow time to decompress, ground, breath even if just for a moment I feel confident and centered. My mind is my worst enemy but my body seems to be helping me tame the beast. With thoughtful breath and meditative moments I'm learning to return to center.

It's scary and challenging to put yourself in these positions but also richly rewarding. Figure the more I practice the easier it will be to occupy my truth and be comfortable within it.

I really do like the person at my center. He is a sensitive, caring, thoughtful, loving, intelligent person that can lead himself.

 

[Rani G2]

. With thoughtful breath and meditative moments I'm learning to return to center.

Beautifully written. Thanks

 

[Lost Marbles]

Fun this thread popped up today, this was one of the topics my T and I discussed this morning. The answer for me is yes, I almost always feel like I do not belong. Even when I'm with like minded people, I usually feel like an outsider. I know it usually has a lot to do with me and my issues with trusting others. It is one of the things I've been working on.

 

[Rani G2]

I know it usually has a lot to do with me and my issues with trusting others. It is one of the things I've been working on.

Same here...this something I feel very strongly today, feeling isolated, standing on the edge

 

[Lost Marbles]

@PURUSHA, you always have us here to make you feel part of the group. A hug if it helps :hug:

 

[Multitudes]

I feel like I am just watching the world go round from inside of my cage made with glass, peering out at a world I do not recognize, maybe have never known, and certainly do not belong

I couldn't put it better than this.

 

[Rani G2]

you always have us here to make you feel part of the group

Thanks...its a rough phase. Like many others going through. Living is a hard thing to Do. Right now, I'd rather stay in a nest than engaging...

 

[Ronin]

I was wondering, how many of you have issues with belonging tied to sensory ones?

Just got me thinking since (re)discovered my issues with belonging really aren't people, that much, as sensory. Throw me in a cold-wet noisy environment without tools to take care of myself and I'm a lost puppy. Improv on any of those factors, 'belonging' comes back. And it doesn't matter who is around me, or what they're doing, but how I feel inside my body, and that body in its environment.

 

[Mach123]

Sex is the only thing that fixes this for me. I do not feel alone when I am with my lover. Being with the other people is something I am trying to fix. I understand where this feeling comes from. I know that I need boundaries and a sense of 'where' am I acting from? Where is my strength in this situation is something I could never understand. Submissiveness is what makes me feel like this mostly. I can see that and I am trying to understand what if anything I can do about it. For lots of people, everything is winning and losing. I don't do well with this and I could go off now on a long rant about winners and what it means for us but I think it'll come off like complaining which is what I really feel like doing.

I know I can't control situations but I need to do a much better job at controlling myself in situations. Regulating my feelings so I can have some idea of what I want to say or not to say instead of just blurting things out because I feel so uncomfortable etc etc.

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

The sensory scene is a major issue for me, @Ronin . Good point. The smells, the temperature, the sustenance made available, the noise level, the number of people in a closed-in space, etc., etc. all plays a huge part in how well my being can exist in that particular in-vironment.

 

[Freida]

wow --- funny that I stumbled on this thread. I was just thinking this am how grateful I am that I found this group because it is one of the few place I feel I can belong. I can be honest (thank you anonymity!) and be with people who can understand the shit storm that is going on in my head all the time. I can have conversations with people who feel like I do and who are willing to share what they are going thru, how they cope and what they have learned. LOL - how funny when the group of outcasts becomes a group -- of outcasts!

 

[MrMoonlight]

@Tornadic Thoughts, @Ronin

I just returned from a trip where the airports were truly my worst enemy. I had a hell of a time waiting in the terminal being surrounded and swarmed by people (threats). The car and bus exhaust when departing or arriving from international airports and the noise. Loud, distinct and repetitive noises took me down the rabbit hole. I learned from the experience, took required meds, found spot against wall and slapped bluetooth earplugs in. It helped but my biggest flashback trigger in life is fire smoke...a particular scent known to me. I'm sure the 5 fire houses responding to my arson attack and accompanying sirens also plays a role even today.? I'm just learning...

God bring us peace...