Psychopath? don’t know what to think! input needed

[scout86]

There isn't any way any if us could give her an accurate diagnosis. "A psychopath" is one of many things she might be. There are a lot of people who don't do empathy well, for a lot of reasons. There have been a few times when I've said something in a therapy session that led my T to laugh and say, "That would score you some points on the psychopath scale." Then he'll go on to say, "You couldn't be a psychopath if you wanted to. There's a lot of other stuff on that test." Usually that exchange comes because what i said was pretty cold blooded. (shrug)

In this case, you could guess forever and never be sure of the answer.

 

[Deleted member 37868]

You're reading waaaaay more into that than you should.

I don’t get it it lol. Also I will keep doing it, but you are entitled to view to your opinion.

 

[shimmerz]

Please any input would be helpful. I don’t know what to do.

Probably because you asked this ^^^^ which is pretty much asking for any or every thought from responder's to this posting.

I think most ppl on here weren’t getting it really.

So, yeah, that is my interpretation of the types of responses you got.

 

[Deleted member 37868]

Probably because you asked this ^^^^ which is pretty much asking for any or every thought from respond...

I’m trying to clarify a really confusing situation for me, I mean I did experience it, and my 3 am post was probably not very coherent lol, it just seems like ppl are annoyed that I posted this? this is actually quite amusing at this point. It’s weird to go through something that weird and traumatic and then have ppl get annoyed at me for posting on a ptsd forum. I’m not surprised tho, I mean this is the internet, I gotta expect it.

 

[scout86]

What are you confused about?

 

[Deleted member 37868]

What are you confused about?

Dude my situation with this 30 year woman, and the weird behaviour and shit, I said I don’t know what to think, obviously I’m in shock I blocked her, the responses on here are also weird, not all of them, but wth like I’m not supposed to think about something that happened so recently! This is not something I brought on myself, some of these comments are soooooo judgemental, I am who I am. I’m not going to forget about something this crazy that quickly. If anyone doesn’t like what I have to say that’s fine, but why not just leave my thread? This is a ducking ptsd forum. I’ve been waiting so long for a therapist it’s not even funny. The things I post on here are things I can’t just talk about irl. If you can’t understand that, why are u on this forum?

 

[Sideways]

If your concern is about her mental illness? She seems to be functioning at a level where, even if she does have a mental illness, it isn’t at the point where intervention against her wishes is appropriate. She’s getting around, making friends (and losing some of them). Her personality sucks, but some people are just like that. There’s also the issue that, with ‘old school Russian parents’, there’s some subtle cultural differences going that are influencing the way she talks and behaves.

She isn’t a psychopath. Nope. She isn’t. Does she have Anti-Social Personality Disorder (which I think is what you’re getting at?) Possibly. But, more liky, she’s just a jerk. Does she have psychosis? Not based on anything you’ve written. Is she autistic? Well, now we’re just clutching at straws.

If you can put aside all the labels for a moment (because none of us have sufficient qualifications and personal knowledge of this person to use them accurately in this situation): can you flesh out what it is about her shitty personality that’s confusing you?

As a self-described empath’ (sigh - labels!), is it possibly that you can’t get your head around how someone can treat people like this, and be okay with that? Is that the issue? If that’s the issue, it’s not about whether she’s mentally ill - it’s about wrapping our head around the concept that some people are just really horrible, and how does that happen? How are they okay with that? Why are they like that? It doesn’t make sense.

The answer, in most cases? Is a complicated mix of personality, genetics, environment, upbringing, life-experiences, and on and on. The key is to identify “I don’t like this person”, and remove them from your life. Pathologising people that you simply don’t like or understand? Is not the issue, it’s a distraction.

 

[scout86]

The things I post on here are things I can’t just talk about irl. If you can’t understand that, why are u on this forum?

I'm not sure if by "you" you mean me, specifically, or if you mean anyone who doesn't get it. Either way, I can understand how you'd like to understand what happened. The thing is, no one here is qualified to make a diagnosis, and it sort of sounded like you were asking for one. People around here are usually pretty careful about how they use labels. You're right, probably most people don't use expressions like "cutting someone's heart out", but there are many possible reasons for the statement, as there are many possible explanations for her behavior.

 

[shimmerz]

I learned to stop trying to figure people out a long time ago. I used to keep myself busy with why for hours, days, weeks, years at a time. Speaking of distractions, it was a great one. Didn't get me anywhere but it sure kept my left brain engaged.

 

[Deleted member 37868]

If your concern is about her mental illness? She seems to be functioning at a level where, even if s...

Hmmmm. I mean you’re right on point on some things, like it’s a huge mess of things causing her behaviour etc. But I’m not the only one that is worried. The problem is this story is long af, and I did not post all the details. First off she dead seriously wants to start a cult, and start world war 3. I’ve had to commit both my parents to psych wards , my dad oh idk 15 times? He practically lives there, and he seems fine to strangers lol, but he’s not, she’s incredibly similar to him actually. As for labels they can get excessive, but when ppl nuts, they nuts, should we eliminate words as well lol? I never understand that logic, it’s a slippery slope. My friend is worried, 2 off her friends dumped her excluding me and Julie. It’s getting batshit crazy, she is going to kill someone driving high, last time I was in a car with her she drove onto the intermedian and almost knocked over a sign post on a busy road. Soooooo. Lol, and yes I’m an empath, ppl even tell me their delusions .

 

[Deleted member 37868]

I learned to stop trying to figure people out a long time ago. I used to keep myself busy with why fo...

Haha well I mean we each have to decide what’s right for us. I’m a full time student so my mind is occupied constantly anyways, I’m thinker, I ruminate on everything, I hate mindfulness meditation lol, I think all that empty and quiet your mind is bullshit, it’s just the new religion in my opinion. The point is we each have to decide for ourselves.

 

[Deleted member 37868]

I'm not sure if by "you" you mean me, specifically, or if you mean anyone who doesn't get it. Either wa...

I wasn’t just to clarify I believe all psychology is just theories anyways, I think pretty highly of the people with life experiences with mental illness. Besides that a diagnosis doesn’t matter, it doesn’t change the situation or what I’m going through. My point is I feel and care for this person, I don’t think I’m a hundred percent in the right, that’s why I was honest about getting super annoyed with her. If she’s closeted I think I may have devastated her. She may have thought I like girls, cause I’m not interested in guys, because I have a lot of issues to work through. Just putting it out there I don’t rationally hate men, there’s so many amazing guys out there, it’s my own problem. Anyways I hope this kind of explains what I meant in my original post. I go on a million tangents, and I expect ppl to follow what I’m saying lmfaoo. I’m just trying to explain myself.