Relationship/ sex therapy ?

[Mee]

I feel really hopeful and optimistic today and able to think forwards not backwards :).

One of the things that I am wondering about is if relationship or sex therapy would help me in my relationship. My partner is willing though keen we maintain that this is not a fault in our relationship; he does not want me to take more blame and our relationship has been good and I think that we are working through the ‘bad stuff that hapoened’ and my ptsd together and dramatic changes in me shows our strength.

But I would like when we physically connect to be free of flashbacks and fear and confusion. This is NOT his fault and his patience and love is exemplary ( which mKes me feel guilty).

He thinks time will be ok but is more than willing to support me in every way.

Has anyone hear done this ? Successfully? I sort of agree with him time is what we need but I am impatient!

 

[Swift]

Hey mate,
It's kind of a great sign that you're impatient!
Flashbacks and triggers during sex are awful.
Um, I've had some mix and match results with sex "therapy" and sex therapists.

I'm done for the minute sorry.

 

[Mee]

Hey mate,
It's kind of a great sign that you're impatient!
Flashbacks and triggers during sex are awful...

Hello!

Yes: they bloody are awful! I want them gone! I want to have sex with him ; how it should be , not sex with him and a host of fears and memories.

In your mixed experience was it the therapist that made a difference or approach?

I think our relationship skills are ok :) and I only want to connect sexually with him; if it were not for him I would just become celibate now :) but there is him and I love him.

I'm done for the minute sorry.

Always, always ok dear swift

 

[somerandomguy]

@Mee - I've had some pretty terrible results from the sex therapists I've seen. The problem is that very few sex therapists have any knowledge of or experience with trauma issues. If you go this route, you will definitely, definitely, definitely want to find one who is experienced treating people with sexual trauma.

 

[Mee]

Ok. That's exactly it; my issues are trauma based ( sure there is all the ’normal’ female inadequacy shit compounded by some of this but... Its not relevant in my relationship

 

[Muted]

What does a sex therapist do?

 

[Mee]

What does a sex therapist do?

https://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1683.aspx?CategoryID=68

 

[Muted]

https://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1683.aspx?CategoryID=68

Thanks!

 

[Friday]

I've had some pretty terrible results from the sex therapists I've seen. The problem is that very few sex therapists have any knowledge of or experience with trauma issues.

All of the sex therapists I know of specialize. There’s some overlap (like sex therapists specializing in cancer patients, & sex therapists specializing in people with physical disabilities, & sex therapists specializing in traumatic injury -think mountain climbing and car accidents, not rape & CSA- will often be treating the same kinds of problems brought about by physical limitation, body shame, nerve damage, etc.), but it’s a reeeeeeeally enormous field, with very few practitioners, comparatively.

 

[Hooper]

I've done both but I have no history of sexual trauma. I really think couples counseling is a good thing if you get in before it's too late. As for sex therapy I just went to get an idea of why my wife was the way she was but that quickly turned into me. The sex therapist was good though. From what you wrote you have the key ingredient which is what sounds like a great partner. He picked you for a reason. I he isn't as hard on you as you are yourself it might be time to ease up on yourself. Wish you the best.
hooper