Thanks,
@Freida :D
I’m hoping he actually wants to talk and connect, but I doubt it too, and doubt I’d be comfortable reconnecting right now, but I’m also not sure if I have a choice, due to financial things I don’t want to talk about immediately.
But he did a double attack. He texted my mother, who divorced his sorry ass ten years ago, saying he wanted to get his stuff from the sheds. Then his father, my grandfather (he’s a good guy, quite an enabler though and expects things to be done quickly and easily), texted my mother also and said to follow through. This happens every couple of years. My father’s father is our landlord, because of my dad’s idiot self. (At least he and my grandmother saved their grandkids from being homeless. It’s one thing I don’t have to add to my trauma list, and I’m very thankful for that.) It’s difficult to avoid.
Then he texted me, after more than five months of no communication, starting with “I love you.” Not, “I miss you,” not, “I was just thinking of you,” not, “I couldn’t donate to Nestle but I hope she’s doing well, I have a dog right now and know that must be hard.” (He hates dogs, why did he get a dog?)
And how am I supposed to take that?
He’s incredibly underdeveloped socially though. Or, thats been his excuse, though I know it’s true because I’ve seen him interact with other humans. They usually get extremely uncomfortable and know something is wrong with him right away. (My mother may be undiagnosed autistic (unconfirmed) so she was not able to pick up on these cues.)
My mom snapped at him once, after their divorce. He had banned her from caring for us, but now she had to bring us to him for visitation, because the Order of Protection expired and she hadn’t done some things to make it keep lasting. (In her childhood, her jealous mom banned all her kids from seeing their father, so I think she really wanted it to work out for us.) He would always go to her window, and talk
to at her for thirty minutes nonstop, and ignore us.
He responded that he was awkward and did not understand how to talk to children.
His own children.
I do know he’s mentally a child. But even children have shown more understanding to me than he has.
