Rupture is it worth discussing or just terminate treatment?

[Justmehere]

His crazymaking actions confirmed you made an excellent decision. I’m glad the old therapist could confirm that for you.

Well done!

 

[scout86]

then he would just be “one more causality” of mine

That, right there, is not the way anyone should handle that type of situation, much less should someone in his line of work use that line.

I'm glad you got to talk to your old T & he validated your concerns. Onward & upward!

 

[FauxLiz]

Ps. it possible we have the same disease. Reasonable-itus

Very possible and it sucks sometimes.

His crazymaking actions

I can't say that before this I have ever thought someone was gaslighting me. Don't get me wrong my whole family said and did things that have made me question just about everything about myself but this guy had me so inside out I couldn't convince myself to cancel our future sessions because the last thing he said to me before I left was he thought it would be good for us to continue working together and that if I cancelled his evening appointments get snapped up so I wouldn't be able to get back on his schedule except during regular business hours (he knew this was a problem for me because including therapy time roundtrip from my house to session and home again was 4 hours and there is no way for me to take a half day off from work each week for therapy.

That, right there, is not the way anyone should handle that type of situation

my previous therapist said several times when we met that he didn't think when he agreed to talk that he would be telling me it was time to move on, that he presumed the issues were around my attachment to him. As sad as this is to say, I think I was also able to get the closure with him that I needed so that I can move on. We did good work together and I will never be able to thank him enough for all he did in the past but looking me in the eye validating that this therapy relationship was not a positive situation and specifically making sure to tell me that "You are not CRAZY" several times gave some hope I haven't had for a while.

 

[blackemerald1]

"You are not CRAZY" several times gave some hope I haven't had for a while.

^^It's SO good when someone you trust says this isn't it?!!

My take on your now new ex therapist is he is a vindictive little bastard who knew exactly what emotional and mental buttons to push you on and he could not resist having a last shot. So glad you got to walk away and didn't harm yourself afterwards.

Also hope you find a therapist you can settle with and move forward.

:hug:

 

[lynn T.]

I think it's just a given that there'll be therapists who simply do not work out. If there's a gut feeling that the person is non-validating, inappropriate with their own remarks or behavior, glib, or any other plethora of other things that give one a very uncomfortable feeling, then time to re-evaluate and do the re-eval without shame. It's your right and duty to find someone who will help, not hinder, nor be concerned about their own ego.