Question about people

[ILoveLife]

We were talking on a diary here about how "normal people" feel emotions. It's just daunting to realize, either there aren't any normal people or everyone kind of doens't know how to handle strong emotions.

Am I thinking too black&white?

Do you know any "normal people" or healthy emotionally wise?

Are we the healthy ones?! :laugh:

Just wondering.

 

[MyWillow]

Here I was thinking it was going to be a simple question ie what do you think about people? (Answer: they suck and they are dangerous. Dogs? Awesome. Cats? Predictable).

Hahahahaha

 

[ILoveLife]

Ah yeah, I'm all about easy questions.
I remember the day everyone here laughed because I asked "what is love". :roflmao: Seriously though, I still don't know. :laugh:
Did get pointers, though!

 

[MyWillow]

Priceless lol

I dunno, I think it’s on a scale maybe. But when you are at the EXTREME end (I experience them as both over reacting and numb) it’s more obvious. That said, I had zero awareness until my arse got kicked into T and I was kinda forced into noticing.

 

[ILoveLife]

That makes sense. I mean, I'm still learning how to even recognize emotions (thanks @shimmerz for Ekman's Atlas, it's so handy!). I couldn't recognize certain things before if they hit me in the face with a sledgehammer and a big billboard with the definition.

But I'm wondering if people without trauma are able to handle their emotions, or if everyone's sort of going with the flow and managing, surpressing, exploding? Maybe that is normal!

 

[MyWillow]

And what is “normal”? Maybe normal is overrated ;)

 

[ILoveLife]

Yesssss no normal, no abnormal. Keep falling for this trap. :)

 

[Chris-duck]

Oh! I had more thoughts.

I couldn't recognize certain things before if they hit me in the face with a sledgehammer and a big billboard with the definition

:laugh:

if people without trauma are able to handle their emotions, or if everyone's sort of going with the flow and managing, surpressing, exploding? Maybe that is normal!

I think it's normal to manage, suppress and explode to some extent, maybe it just comes down to how hard you're willing to try to do all that and what you'd risk to keep avoiding it? Like someone dies or something, and people feel total shit but they work through it naturally (In most cases), and it's fine. Maybe the trauma difference is like "Okay, so my job, house, family, friends and everything are at risk if I keep avoiding, so I could stop avoiding or.. OMG NO AVOID AVOID EVERYTHING!" :P Whereas that'd be a healthy persons "Oh shit, gotta sort this shit out"

Like kinda like how drinking is normal, but being an alcoholic isn't? I dunno.
Normal = socially acceptable in whatever society you're in for the context of this post.

 

[ILoveLife]

Like kinda like how drinking is normal, but being an alcoholic isn't? I dunno.

That's also debatable, given the normality of alcoholism!! ahah, notfunny,sietz.
Anyway, I think you're right. Kinda like that meme, burning house in the background "Everything's fine". But given the popularity of that meme, I'm going to assume most people have those moments in life?
Like, trauma isn't supposed to be normal, but it's normalized. We kinda fight that shit every day in our heads, right? Minimization, denial.

a healthy persons "Oh shit, gotta sort this shit out"

We do that too. That's what I mean!

 

[MyWillow]

I think it’s about degrees and intensity. I mean I’ve been seeing my psychologist T (now equine T) for more than 2 years and my psydoc for 6 months and still struggle to accept that I experience dissociation and flashbacks. WTAF? That’s the numbing and avoidance I guess. But on the other hand my sudden anger/terror is not about the present in reality and that’s where the over reaction comes in. It’s WHY I react in that way - it’s out of proportion to the event. My partner eating noisily makes me rage. Him walking around naked makes me terrified. Yeah, not an appropriate response.

 

[ILoveLife]

Not going to wonder about the philosophy of being appropriate here I swear :roflmao: I think those are pretty normal reactions given you have trauma, right? :) It's really fine.

 

[MyWillow]

Not going to wonder about the philosophy of being appropriate here I swear :roflmao: I think those are pretty normal reactions given you have trauma, right? :) It's really fine.

Nope. No trauma here. Not even my psydoc T and equine T are allowed to say that word out loud. No denial either ;)