Question about people

[Deleted member 47099]

My version:

There is no normal. Or at least it's soooooo rare it's a total exception.

Everyone is more or less f*cked (up).

Personally, I like the ppl who have some insight into their issues.

So my categories are:

1) People who are f*cked up but are aware of it and working on their problems
2) People who are f*cked up and in total denial

Since we belong in Category 1) I think we're winning :D

 

[blackemerald1]

There is no normal.

^^Possibly this is what I think too. :)

 

[Bananamango]

We were talking on a diary here about how "normal people" feel emotions. It's just daunting to realize, either there aren't any normal people or everyone kind of doens't know how to handle strong emotions.

I’m not sure what ‘normal’ is, but two of the things that I seem to notice some sufferers talk about here (that I don’t identify with) is a fear of feeling emotion and inability to identify what emotion they’re feeling. (Would you agree, or maybe you can explain it better?)

I would say that I don’t really fear feeling emotion. Can’t say I’m a big fan of feeling the negative ones like fear or sadness or anger or embarrassment etc, but I don’t fear them. Sometimes feeling sad and having a good cry can actually feel good. Crying can be a good release of things I’ve maybe been bottling up.

I’ve seen sufferers express difficulty getting close to others or feeling love and it seems it ? might be related to feelings of worthlessness sometimes, that you are unloveable or unworthy. And that makes me sad; I want to hug all of you. Nothing that happened to you was your fault. You all deserve and are worthy of love.

I’m certainly not perfect and lose my cool and get angry and have outbursts at times. (I do find hormones at certain times—especially as I’m getting older—can make it harder not to ‘react’ to things rather than respond calmly. I try to be mindful of this.)

I can generally identify the emotion(s) I’m feeling at any given time (for the most part). You don’t really ever stop to identify the emotion, but if someone asked, I could probably tell them. I’ve read that can be an issue too—identifying the emotion you’re feeling. (?)

Is any of this helpful in answering some of your question?

 

[ILoveLife]

(Would you agree, or maybe you can explain it better?

Hmm, yeah ok.
When you a) suppress emotions for a long time or b) you weren't allowed to be emotive or c) youre used to only feeling bad things, it becomes difficult to recognize other emotions besides fear and sadness.
It's interesting to witness here people saying I'm feeling good, feeling x emotion, even though it seems it's just good.
One thing I see often here is "I was able to relax" or "I'm feeling calm" which often can be confusing.
There's a lot of guilt in having emotions too, like we aren't supposed to. I've seen that being transversal to a myriad of mental disorders, not just PTSD.

Is any of this helpful in answering some of your question?

Somewhat yeah thank you :)