Freida
MyPTSD Pro
So I've seen this around here recently and now it's hit home with me too. (thanks @Chris-duck for the idea of a thead!)
Long story short - sis and nephew moved in with us last year. It's been going ok, but I'm just entering my three month long hellscape of an anniversary season and they just don't get it. To be fair - sis is under some major stress of her own, single mom, illness, no money, blah blah so I'm trying to cut her some slack.
Two weeks ago I told her that this next few months are going to be ugly and that I wanted her to know that I would probably spiral into bitch woman from hell here and there. Then I promptly blew up at her 2 days later. I apologized, she said it was ok, then stopped speaking to me. Trigger all the "stupid me why do I trust her, what was I thinking by telling her anything, how could she understand, of course she won't speak to me" blah blah blah.
We generally get along - but this year I am spiraling way earlier than I usually do which is scaring the crap out of me, my coping skills haven't caught up and I have ZERO idea how to get it thru to her. Plus I think that the combo of dealing with her drama and all my upcoming nonsense is going to be really, really ugly. I know myself well enough to know that if it gets bad enough I'll tell her to get out - which really isn't an option for her. So that means my go to of ghosting will kick in. And yep, I can ghost on someone I live with ( just ask my hubby! LOL)
Talking to her right now isn't an option either because, well, I'm in the middle of a crazy making week long anniversary, she's pissy and there is no way it will go well.
So here's the question
For sufferers --- when your roommates - that you like -- are making you crazed what do you do? Other than hide in the bedroom and totally avoid them?
For supporters -- how do I make her hear me?
Whew.
Long story short - sis and nephew moved in with us last year. It's been going ok, but I'm just entering my three month long hellscape of an anniversary season and they just don't get it. To be fair - sis is under some major stress of her own, single mom, illness, no money, blah blah so I'm trying to cut her some slack.
Two weeks ago I told her that this next few months are going to be ugly and that I wanted her to know that I would probably spiral into bitch woman from hell here and there. Then I promptly blew up at her 2 days later. I apologized, she said it was ok, then stopped speaking to me. Trigger all the "stupid me why do I trust her, what was I thinking by telling her anything, how could she understand, of course she won't speak to me" blah blah blah.
We generally get along - but this year I am spiraling way earlier than I usually do which is scaring the crap out of me, my coping skills haven't caught up and I have ZERO idea how to get it thru to her. Plus I think that the combo of dealing with her drama and all my upcoming nonsense is going to be really, really ugly. I know myself well enough to know that if it gets bad enough I'll tell her to get out - which really isn't an option for her. So that means my go to of ghosting will kick in. And yep, I can ghost on someone I live with ( just ask my hubby! LOL)
Talking to her right now isn't an option either because, well, I'm in the middle of a crazy making week long anniversary, she's pissy and there is no way it will go well.
So here's the question
For sufferers --- when your roommates - that you like -- are making you crazed what do you do? Other than hide in the bedroom and totally avoid them?
For supporters -- how do I make her hear me?
Whew.