Ooops, reading Ragdolls list, this reminded me that when I come home from dropping off the kids, I often straighten the living room from the morning rush. Load the dishes. Feed the cat. Small things like this give me a sense of mastery and I do make little lists, too. Crossing things off is therapeutic. I have a good friend who taught me to literally give myself a pat on the back for things. The kids are fed. Pat on back! You took a shower. Three pats on the back!