Dissociation And Lonely?

[LeoTheLion]

Anyone find yourself dissociation more if or when your lonely? I am start to wonder if there is any connection between dissociation and lonely anyone?

 

[anthony]

Dissociation or just bored / day dreaming due to being lonely?

Are you also confusing dissociation with derealization?

Dissociation is an autonomous response to something startling, shaking, something outside your normal spectrum of coping.

Derealization is the feeling that the world around you is unreal, strange, detached from it.

I find people use the word dissociation way too much to be honest... because you don't just sit around and begin to dissociate, that is derealization... when something startles you / triggers you, then a person can dissociate, as dissociation is a response, derealization is a reality experience.

 

[anthony]

Oh... then I could add... depersonalization, which is derealization except turned inwards, not outwards, off yourself.

Sound more applicable than dissociation, being that loneliness isn't startling you, but you are feeling similar?

 

[Gamereign555]

Well I do tend to be alone when derealization and depersonalization happens. When I am that stressed I always want Amandas presence, and I would feel alone without her. I haven't felt this way in a while, I hope that keeping my anxiety in check will mean that derealizing and depersonalizing is a thing of the past.

 

[ProductOfSociety]

At work I have realized that I am fine when working with others or when customers are there. As soon as no one is around I began to think. Thinking is what gets me into trouble. One thought leads to another and eventually I am thinking about the traumatic events in my life. I try and keep myself busy or distracted, rather it be with video games or television, I try not to give myself the time to even let my mind wonder. I also have a huge problem with derealization. Actually it may not be derealization, I don't know what is what. Sometimes when someone yells at me, or rarely randomly, I get into a state where I feel as if I am not in my own body. Things are happening, and I am aware of them, but I can't respond. No emotion is there. It's rather nice really, but it ticks some of the people close to me off when I get like that.

 

[Gamereign555]

Yeah I think as long as I'm doing something like going on a walk or something like that, I'm able to feel and process my thoughts in a better manner. I think it's a mindset thing though, I go out on walks to specifically try and do this..

 

[BlueKitty]

I try and keep myself busy or distracted, rather it be with video games or television, I try not to give myself the time to even let my mind wonder.

yup, I am a busy bee, a mega-workaholic. Got to be occupied with something all the time. When I am on my own with some time in my hand, I start thinking about things and gets me angry, depressed, etc.

Sometimes when someone yells at me, or rarely randomly, I get into a state where I feel as if I am not in my own body.

Me too!!

 

[LeoTheLion]

Anthony, I am still new to those words so forgive me if I use wrong words I am still learning about those different words and sometimes it can become confused for me. I am still having hard time to understand the different between so many words in the dissociation category. Smile

 

[LeoTheLion]

Anthony, just an idea maybe you could write somewhere different between several words within dissociation category what do you think Since you mention..
"I find people use the word dissociation way too much to be honest... "

Maybe not many people realize different words and different feelings etc.. Like me I am still new to it and still having hard time with them.

What do you think?

 

[anthony]

Hi Leo... my posts are more "asking" you whether it is dissociation, or derealization / depersonalization... as I do not know if you are or are not aware of the differences. People just use dissociation, often confusing it for what it is.

More just questioning you to ascertain what you are saying, to help you whether it is dissociation or one of the other two.

Yes... eventually such things will be listed in the wiki pages...

 

[Bachall]

Quite the opposite. Dissociation greatest risk in crowdd, social. Confusion, among friends. Example : time I apparently walked around unresponsive for at least a minute at a picnic thing wth fome of my closest friends. Then I staggered over to a lawn chair and barred on my best friends shoe. That's a real frjend for you!

I passed it off as a stomach virus once I was aware of my surroundings again. Everyone was sympathetic but greatly amused, too.

two hour later I was still so foggy I ran into a pole (very slowly) going out the drivrway.

This sirt of thing happens in stores, sometimes even driving. I lose time. Sometimes I just have a blank spot, sometimes in utterly disoriented still when I regain self awareness. The latter happens more often in relation to panic attacks. The former are often idiopathic. Now that I have a trauma diagnosis, I want to see a neurologist about these time blips

 

[Bachall]

Okay, I accidentally hit post because seriously in typing blind hre.

The weird time loss incidents also happen under stredd, but there's no discrete trigger and no emotional or other phsiologgical trainee like the complete Dissociative meltdowns. So I want to see whether it's more of a traumatic brain injury thing instead. It's odd to think the particular form of treatment in got during my Special Time with my steodad each nine for ten years left no damage of that sort. And then I had a major auto accident eight years ago.

I'm susceptible to derealization, always have been, as a symptom of my anxiety levels. About a year after being on two different anti anxiety meds I cannot even "find" that unreal feeling voluntarily sometimes. It almost never jumps me from behind. The exception was the last few weeks when I was having acute Ptsd symptoms with immersive flashbacks. Then I was slipping in and out of both derealization and very acute depersonalization symptoms.

On the ladt, depersonalization is somsomething I told my theraptherapy I was most concerned about. That gaslighting thing is intensely powerful. I still cannot accept that I'm worth taking up air in the world. Not on a conscious level, but I'm constantly catching myself giving up, slipping back into that state of learned helplessness twenty stinkingly years later.

No, it's okay. I'll drink the diet ckoe. Even though I'm allergic to it [you always make trouble]. No, it's fine, I can sleep on the floor [just once I want a paycheck where I'm not spending it all on you! ]. I'm fine. I don't need to go to the doctor [doctors overreact and then the State will put all your brother's and sistersisters in Homes].

Every act of perceived rejection confirms this and sends me into my burrito state, wrapped in my squishy blancket on the couch. Rejection can just be not hearing my gentle subsonic request for attention.